Post # 32
EVERYONE has flaws they are self conscious about. I’m about the same size as she is and I’m also extremely self conscious about my hips. People also think I’m crazy but that’s my vice… I just don’t have the mentality of “showing it off” and certain sample gowns I tried on I was appalled at how HUGE I looked! Anything that deviates from the norm can make a person feel larger or thinner… It has nothing to do with who has rights or a claim to being able to say they feel large. I also bought a mermaid 😉 So I can totally relate to the OP.
I think you look amazing. If you are uncomfortable (and seriously, I can totally relate!) I say let it out. Spanx will not make you happy in that dress and may even show through… I’m lost on how it’s tighter from taking down the ruffles?
Post # 33
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
Not to start a big thing, but you should think about how you phrase these things. I’m a lot bigger than you are, and it always hurts when I hear thin, fit girls talk about how fat or huge they are. If you’re huge, then I must be gargantuan.
I’m sure you only meant to be self-deprecating; I’m sure that you didn’t mean to offend anyone. And I’m not even offended, I’m just really sensitive to these things. I don’t want to start another debate about censorship on the boards; you’re allowed to say whatever you want. Just think about how you say these things, though. You don’t look huge. You look great, you have a wonderful figure.
Again – I hope this doesn’t cause a big debate on the boards.
Post # 34
Everyone is allowed to have their own insecurities. I can’t believe that just because everyone thinks she’s thin, they automatically think she doesn’t have a right to voice these insecurities. I don’t think she’s being insensitive or offensive at all!
To the OP – I don’t think your hips look huge at all, I think the dress is really really flattering on you. It gives you an awesome shape. I do see the fabric pulling though, and for that reason I voted to let the dress out a tiny bit 🙂
Post # 35
If you think you look huge, then I am in BIG trouble 🙁
Post # 36
I wore Spanx for my SIL’s wedding…they were “shorts” that went up to just under my bust, and halfway down my thigh. They really made me feel smoother and more confident. And they took 2″ off my waist and hips. I do see a bit of pulling in the hips, and I think Spanx will help that.
You do look fabulous in the dress though, and I am suggesting the Spanx only because you asked, not because I think you need it!
Post # 37
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
@ottawa – I think she has every right to voice her insecurities. If the OP had said something like “The dress isn’t flattering” or “I look bigger than I am,” I wouldn’t have even thought twice. It was just the way she phrased it.
Post # 38
I don’t think she is being offensive or insensitive. Please do NOT get the wrong idea. Please understand where I’m coming from. In real life, I’m encountered with women very often who “fish” for compliments by saying they are so fat, so huge, so ugly, etc. Then they expect people to compliment them to make them feel better, when in fact they know they are thin and beautiful.
As a side note, I am NOT implying that the OP is “fishing” for compliments. I’m merely describing my past experience and why I posted my first post in this thread. I do respect that she is allowed to have her own insecurities. But please respect my opinion about the situation as well.
Post # 39
I agree with danadephia. I believe it was the way it was phrased that led me to post what I posted. As danadelphia said, if she said something like: “I look bigger than I am” I wouldn’t have thought twice either.
Post # 40
Honey you are gorgeous! And everyone else should seriously like SERIOUSLY not respond to this gorgeous woman who has a problem with how she wrote her feelings. She may feel like for her she looks fat-which by the way i TOTALLY disagree-but thats her feelings of her. Thats not saying anything about anyone else or thier size 🙂
Post # 41
Everyone is allowed to have their own insecurities and opinions of their OWN bodies. She isn’t talking about anyone else. So please don’t get offended about a girl not being happy with her dress. A lot of bees have been there!
@Ms Green Apple – you look gorgeous! I also think that getting the dress pressed may help the fabric to lay flat in your hip area.
Are you comfortable?? If you are and can walk and sit etc. I say just go with it you are rocking that dress. IF you can’t move – I would talk to your seamstress about taking the hip area out a bit!
Post # 42
I would wear spanx if it makes you feel better, but I wouldn’t mess with taking it out. Like previous posters, I don’t see much of a difference between the two fittings (except for the expression on your face!) You look awesome.
Post # 43
You look really nice in your dress I do not see anything wrong with your dress.
Post # 44
I don’t think it needs let out, it needs steamed so the fabric is smooth.
Your definition of huge =/= my definition. You look amazing. be kind to yourself!!
Post # 45
I honestly don’t really see a difference. Does the dress feel comfortable enough that it doesn’t feel like the seems are going to bust? Cause It looks like it fits great to me. I think you have the perfect shape for that dress. My body is totally straight (pretty much no curves) and I have a larger upper body. You can totally pull that dress off!
Post # 46
I really can’t tell! I think you look stunning in that dress and really flatters your figure! If you are insecure though, go get a pair of spanx and try the dress with them, if you still don’t like the outcome, I’m sure she can let it out some. Because of the pannelling in the back, she should be able to pull something off!