Post # 1
My fiance and I are in the very beginning stages of planning, and I have the greatest fear that our wedding will lack a cohesive theme. I keep thinking that I’ll find something that I LOVE, like a unique wedding invitation, and then we can build the rest of our wedding from there. But there are so many choices out there, I am starting to think that it may be easier to pick some kind of a theme or look to narrow down the choices.
What was your theme? Can you help me think of one for ours? We are pretty urban people (think http://www.stuffwhitepeoplelike.com) but we are getting married in my hometown in Montana at my parents’ home. Of all the pages I have already ripped out of magazines, I notice that I love wedding dresses with fabric flowers; modern, monochromatic floral arrangements (lots of callalilies); crystals; and pretty cuisine. I am really into the color of aubergine, but we haven’t decided on accent colors yet.
Post # 3
i think a unifying theme is something that will happen when you find that one thing that is AMAZING to you. For us it came when we decided where to get married and it evolved from there. Old Florida, the invite tied into that, the cake mimicked the invite, flowers to match the color of the invite and cake (orange), bridesmaid dress and ties to compliment that color.
and then added touches like latin inspired music – we found new music that had been mixed with some latin sounds- like coldplay and even jack johnson and sergio mendez. And of course Mojitos and I wanted our food to be regional tasting as well.
It will come together. You just need that one image/thought/feel to catapult your imagination.
Post # 4
All of the photos you are drawn to, just put into here: http://bighugelabs.com/flickr/mosaic.php
Then, post it and maybe it will be easier to us to help you come up with ideas for a theme.
Post # 5
What time of year are you getting married? Are you inspired by the seasons at all? I’m sure many will tell you that you don’t need a theme, but I understand it’s nice to have a cohesive idea on which to build your day.
We also live in a big city and are getting married at my family’s home in Vermont. Our theme is a backyard luau/country chic barbeque. The luau bit is a nod to FH’s family roots in Hawaii and the country chic represents my family. The guys will all be wearing leis, we’re hoping to serve up a pig roast, and we’ve got some island music on our playlist. Our main color is orange b/c FH and I have this (somewhat ridiculous) obsession with the color orange. One thing I’m searching for now is a bold, orange flower that is in season in July in Vermont. Tricky, unless I want orange day lilies. I’d like to use it in my bouquet and the centerpieces, maybe draw one as the graphic on our invitation, and plant it in our garden as a constant reminder of the day.
Anyway, my point is that you can pretty much choose anything as a theme. Sit down with your Fiance and talk about the things that represent you. Maybe there’s an urban place you like to frequent –a restaurant or park perhaps– with a logo you could rework for your wedding or a particular dish you ask your caterer to make. Is there an activity you both enjoy? If we weren’t going with the luau idea, I considered scouring the countryside for old ski boots (and fill with flowers), skis and poles to use as decorations, get our pics taken on the chairlift, and use a pic of us skiing for our save-the-date (we’re both skiers, in case you didn’t guess). It’s up to you as to how you implement it. I think ours will come off as rather subtle, unless all the guests decide to wear Hawaiian print shirts…
Post # 6
How about a unique detail from your courtship? We met at the KY Derby and are serving mint juleps at cocktail and are naming the table numbers after Derby terms. Maybe you share a hobby? Have a funny habit? Had an exciting first date? Another choice might be florals? We are using gerber daisies throughout (in the fountain, on the cake, centerpieces, bouquets, etc.). Others have said it already, but anything can be a theme. Aside from that, if you do not have an obvious theme, you will be the only one who notices;)