(Closed) Help- I need an outside opinion!!!

posted 7 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
14496 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

People do this all the time with destination weddings.  I dont think it’s weird at all.  The only thing is, if you’re trying to save money, is a back yard bbq going to be as inexpensive as you think?  I had a friend here have a destination wedding, then started to plan the backyard bbq (literally in her parents back yard) and the costs added up so much, along with the headaches and coordination, that they ended up having their at home reception at a wedding venue anyways for about the same cost and a quarter of the headache.

Post # 4
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t think this is crazy at all.  Many people do it.

However, as Pinkshoes stated, look into your costs carefully.  If I added up the money I spent on the Destination Wedding, plus the AHR (at home reception), it wasn’t costing much less than a full-blown traditional wedding (150 people). And it was more aggravation planning two events.  So I just went the traditional route.

Post # 6
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My Bestie got married in Vegas as well as a brother.  Depending on how much you want to spend a Vegas Destination Wedding can cost the same as one in your hometown.  Ok, its SF so it may be a little cheaper.LOL

Many ppl are use to having a separate reception after a Destination Wedding so what you’re doint isn’t unusal.  Since we weren’t able to invite all of our friends to our intimate wedding, we’re planning a celebration party for our 1st year annivesary. 

Post # 7
916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna

For you you can! It’s call a at-home reception and is actually a pretty standard thing for a destination wedding. All of our guests told us how much they loved that we held something so they could celebrate with us. 😉

Post # 8
630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Just saying like, people do it without it being a destination wedding, so it’s definitely okay for a DW!

Post # 9
4 posts
  • Wedding: November 2010

@Alpal627: This is EXACTLY what my fiance and I are doing. The difference is there are 30 of us going to Costa Rica and probably 200+ for the reception. For us it was about the quality time – we got to spend a week with the people closest to us. The financial support my parents are giving us seemed better spent on a week away than a night. And when we get back, we are doing a tented BBQ and dance at fiance’s parent’s country home. It is still going to cost money, but the less formal setting will mean we can focus on fun and spending time with everyone. I’m so happy with our choice, and our friends and family are, too. With more and more of our friends having kids, growing careers, etc, they are glad they can come out and celebrate afterwards without feeling pressured to give us a big gift or dedicate an entire weekend for the ceremony, dinner, and dance.

If you go this way, I’d be happy to share tips with you! I was event manager in a formal life 🙂

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