Post # 1
So my Fiance and I spent weeks throwing around different ideas for our wedding. The general consensus was that we wanted something fun and inexpensive. Well I come from a HUGE family that I’m not incredibly close with, and he comes from a very, very small family that we’re both very close with. We decided that it would probably work out best for our happiness and budget if we went to Las Vegas, with just our immediate family for a fun wedding weekend. The following weekend we would have a big bbq celebration back home, and invite the 100+ people that we wouldn’t be including in the vegas nuptials.
I’m sure this has been done by many others who’ve had destination weddings, but I’ve never been involved in that sorta thing before. Is this a crazy idea? Will people be offended that we want them to attend a “wedding reception” without actually seeing us get married? The goal is to celebrate and be happy and share the love, so when and where it all happens shouldn’t matter, right? Also, is it still appropriate that we register for gifts and everything?
Feedback would be greatly appreciated, thanks hive!
Post # 3
People do this all the time with destination weddings. I dont think it’s weird at all. The only thing is, if you’re trying to save money, is a back yard bbq going to be as inexpensive as you think? I had a friend here have a destination wedding, then started to plan the backyard bbq (literally in her parents back yard) and the costs added up so much, along with the headaches and coordination, that they ended up having their at home reception at a wedding venue anyways for about the same cost and a quarter of the headache.
Post # 4
I don’t think this is crazy at all. Many people do it.
However, as Pinkshoes stated, look into your costs carefully. If I added up the money I spent on the Destination Wedding, plus the AHR (at home reception), it wasn’t costing much less than a full-blown traditional wedding (150 people). And it was more aggravation planning two events. So I just went the traditional route.
Post # 5
Thanks for the feedback ladies. This will be something different for my family, as it’s always quicky weddings in casinos or big catholic church/banquet hall weddings. I have expensive taste so I just don’t think I could throw the whole sha-bang at home in San Francisco and be able to afford what I really want. I have picked out a wonderful, free, venue for the party and have worked out a good package with a BBQ caterer. The Vegas thing is so exciting to me because it’s going to just be my Fiance and I with our closest family! I justify the added expense of a Destination Wedding because it will be a vacation too (we LOVE Vegas)! My mother didn’t really understand my reasons for doing two separate parties, but I explained to her my taste and budget concerns, as well as the fact that because my family is so large I feel my whole wedding day would be all about pleasing them and less about us and our love. This gives us a chance to have an intimate wedding, but not exclude anyone who wants to celebrate our marriage with us. But I’m trying desperately not to offend anyone or make them feel excluded, it’s so hard!!!
Post # 6
My Bestie got married in Vegas as well as a brother. Depending on how much you want to spend a Vegas Destination Wedding can cost the same as one in your hometown. Ok, its SF so it may be a little cheaper.LOL
Many ppl are use to having a separate reception after a Destination Wedding so what you’re doint isn’t unusal. Since we weren’t able to invite all of our friends to our intimate wedding, we’re planning a celebration party for our 1st year annivesary.
Post # 7
- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
For you you can! It’s call a at-home reception and is actually a pretty standard thing for a destination wedding. All of our guests told us how much they loved that we held something so they could celebrate with us. 😉
Post # 8
Just saying like, people do it without it being a destination wedding, so it’s definitely okay for a DW!
Post # 9
@Alpal627: This is EXACTLY what my fiance and I are doing. The difference is there are 30 of us going to Costa Rica and probably 200+ for the reception. For us it was about the quality time – we got to spend a week with the people closest to us. The financial support my parents are giving us seemed better spent on a week away than a night. And when we get back, we are doing a tented BBQ and dance at fiance’s parent’s country home. It is still going to cost money, but the less formal setting will mean we can focus on fun and spending time with everyone. I’m so happy with our choice, and our friends and family are, too. With more and more of our friends having kids, growing careers, etc, they are glad they can come out and celebrate afterwards without feeling pressured to give us a big gift or dedicate an entire weekend for the ceremony, dinner, and dance.
If you go this way, I’d be happy to share tips with you! I was event manager in a formal life 🙂