- 6 years ago
- Wedding: February 2012
Phew….I need to vent!!!! I need some advice on how being married works. Well, I recently got married on Feb. 25, after having postponed the wedding in December our day finally came. I was and am happy but there are a few little things that bug me and get me upset =( It may be a little long because I have to vent and it’s dealing with our finances.
Well, a month or so before getting married he lost his job of 15 years and my pay has been cut by $30.00 due to the educational deficit in Texas. I try my best to budget our money- the unemployment he gets and the little money I make. We don’t pay rent for my parents decided that we could stay with them until the end of the school so I wouldn’t have to move my daughter to a new district, but we do have our truck not which we got before he was laid off. We make roughly about $2200 monthly (our incomes combined) so I try to strecth that to help us with our bills, which we end up with $300.00. I try to not spend that on unnecessary things, such as buying or going to the movies or eating out (two of the things he loves to do). Whenever I try to tell him something he gets mad and says that none of his things count only mine! The things I try to save the money for: getting gas, getting toiletries, or a girft or so. He recently bought some application that allows you to dowload movies unto a laptop and then allows you to convert them so you can see them on an ipad. Then on Tuesday, when I got off work, he picked me up and already had two large pizzas and tons of wings for us to for dinner, THERE’S ONLY 3 OF US (HIM, MYSELF AND MY KID)! Did we really need 2 large pizzas! Last Sunday, he decided that he wanted to go to dinner, I told him I wasn’t really hungry so he said: You’ll be hungry later so we’ll take it to go. I didn’t want to make him upset, so I agreed. A few Sundays back while we headed home from church we stopped at a convinent store because he wanted a Sprite. I specifically said, “Just get the Sprite and let’s head out.” Well, he comes to the car with a bag with like 6 sodas and two boxes, one with corn dogs and the othe with burritos. I didn’t say anything but got upset myself when I saw the receipt. He had spent $27.00 at a convenient store!!!! Today, I found out that after he dropped me off at work he went back home, then went into town to get a haircut, then came back home, then went to pick me up and decided to go pick up Mc D’s for dinner. I try to do everything on one trip since we don’t have much leisure money to be spending. I telling him that once he drops me off he either needs to wait until I get out or do everything in the morning on that one trip!
HELP! I am frustrated, especially cuz when it comes to our finances he gets very upset when I try to explain to him that we are not in a position to be spending every penny of what we have. He says that I wasn’t this “stingy” before and now all of suddent I am. “Um, hello, you had a real job and I was making $30.00 more per day!”, I don’t tell him that but think about it. All I am doing now is praying that God helps him understand =(