- 7 years ago
I’ve never posted on this section before but was hoping someone might have some advice!
I need a new job, ASAP! I am not getting fired, but I am living with my fiance, planning a wedding for 10 months from now, and he got laid off a couple of months ago and is struggling to find a new job. I REALLY need my job and I make good money, and I am struggling to find something to support both of us. Okay, here’s the background on the situation:
I’ve been at my job for 1.5 years and earlier this year, I really started to hate it there. Being under-staffed, the amount of work that falls on me keeps growing and growing. Because of the woman whose place I took, who made her job her life and took on everything she could, the nature of my job has been to just have all the work dumped on. Well, I am in charge of many CRUCIAL things and they eventually all overlap and it becomes impossible! Then I have people hounding me for things when I’m already trying so hard…it sucks.
Anyway, the other day at work I was really at the end of my rope. I got torn away from my work by my boss, who was clearly in a bad mood, to do something really unneccesary. She overheard me say something bitchy while I was in the heat of the frustration. Well of course, the next morning she calls me into her office. I apologize for my behavior and for getting so aggrivated, and I said next time I will communicate better if I am frustrated, etc. But I used it as an opportunity to explain how tough things were getting. SHe pretty much shot that down and used this as the time to tell me that she thinks I have a bad attitude and that from day 1 I didn’t fit in and wasn’t part of the “team.” Basically she calmly and clearly explained how much she doesn’t like me, and how people have SUPPOSEDLY complained about me having an attitude. (Meanwhile later that day a coworker brought me flowers because I helped her with something and was so nice to her!) I was really upset and told her I would come in with a better attitude, but that I was looking for a new job and would let her know ASAP when/if I was leaving so she could be prepared. She said that it was for the best because she didn’t think I was ever good at this job. THANKS FOR TELLING ME, AFTER WASTING A YEAR AND A HALF OF MY LIFE THERE!!!!!!
OH, and she also explained that it makes her mad that I leave on time every day (which is actually not even true because I usually stay late) and take a lunch break (which is in my contract) and that I am taking a personal day for something that is WRITTEN IN MY CONTRACT as a legal personal day. But its okay that the other woman in my office takes vacation days that she doesn’t even have, after having the whole summer off….right.
What do I do, bees?! Should I abandon ship and live off my wedding savings? Should I accept a lower-paying job and hope Fiance gets a new job soon? We probably can’t even move to a cheaper apartment, because no one will accept us with only one salary…or none at all.
I’m so confused and upset and panicked! 🙁