Post # 1
Hi all, I feel so out of my depth. My partner and I are ready to get married and he told me to “be ready for when the question is asked.” I am so excited but now extremely overwhelmed.
I. Don’t. Want. Diamonds.
I told Lucas this and he said to tell him what I like. I have no idea. I want something low profile and simple. I considered even going the tattoo route instead to get away from having to pick something out in a sea of stones, cuts, settings, etc! I tried to look at harder stones like blue topaz because I don’t want to have to take it off everytime I want to cook or play in the sun.
Long story short, I need help. How did you find a non-diamond ring? Where do you even start? I’m tired of scrolling for hours and finding nothing close to something I’d like. Should I go the total non-gem route? HELP!
Post # 2
You have lots of options. You don’t even have to have stones in your ring; it’s not a law. There are all kinds of gemstones, lab made and natural. The reason people like diamonds is because they are very hard and incredibly durable. The gemstone that is nearly as hard as diamond is sapphire or ruby, both of which are the material corundum. Topaz is pretty, but softer.
There’s also moissanite which is an artificially created gemstone made to resemble diamonds. A lot of people like it, but I prefer other gemstones because moissy has this tendency to develop a film over time that can be difficult to clean off. And there are lab diamonds if your concern is diamond mining or higher prices. (Lab stones are always less $$ than natural)
I suggest you visit some jewelry stores and see what appeals to you. Think in terms of color if you don’t want diamonds.
Post # 3
I think in some Scandinavian countries they don’t do stones for engagement rings, they exchange plain bands. You could do that. I’ve also seen beautiful larger gold bands with unique designs on people’s wedding fingers and they look amazing.
Post # 4
Have you been to a jeweler? It might feel less overwhelming when you see things in person. I’d look for a store with a lot of antiques because they’re often interesting!
Post # 5
- Wedding: Christmas City, USA
I’m with @aprilblonde
. Just a simple band for now is easy and you won’t even notice it’s there. Then at some point in the future if you change your mind, you can always do something else. My parents were from Europe and they always just wore a very simple yellow gold band and it always looked very nice!! It’s very comfortable too. You do you and don’t worry about what others think.
Post # 6
I think a ring without stones might be a great option for you. You would hardly ever have to take it off or mess with it if you didn’t want to. There are myriad bands out there with lovely designs. Later it could stack nicely with a wedding band of your choice.
Low profile, simple. This could be the answer to your needs.
Whatever you get, don’t worry if it’s not “traditional”. Wear what pleases YOU.
Post # 7
Don’t get a tattoo unless you already have tattoos. You might regret it.
Finding a non diamond or no stone ring is simpler than getting a diamond ring or a tattoo, IMO.
If you want a super low profile ring, I’d look into a rose cut bezel. Charles and Colvard has some
I’d also go to jewelers in person. I have friends who wear silicone bands or plain bands. Easy peasy!
Post # 8
Blue Nile has decent bands; easy to purchase online.
Post # 10
Also I wouldn’t go the tattoo route until you’ve been married for at least 5 years.
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2022 - Studio City , CA
You always give the wisest answers!
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2022 - Studio City , CA
Cartier rings are a lovely option.
Post # 13
Old and wise and early to rise!
Post # 14
Do you not like white/colorless stones, or is there something else about diamonds that you don’t like? Knowing what you don’t like about them could help us give better suggestions. Like others have mentioned, you don’t need any stones, you don’t even need a ring unless you want one. If you do want stones, there are very few that you’d have to worry about taking off for cooking or any other reason really. Pearls, opals, and gems in the emerald family are really the only ones that are commonly used in jewelry that you’d have to be careful with. Most others are perfectly fine for daily wear. You could get your favorite color, his favorite color, his or your birthstone, birthstone of the month you met, started dating, wedding month, etc, a symbolic stone
… there are lots of options.
Post # 15
What about a band without stones but with a lot of design to it? You could contact an Etsy Jeweler who could design whatever you’d like