(Closed) Help!! I really HATE my FMIL/SIL/BIL. Almost EVERYONE in my Fiancé’s family!!

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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3847 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

@ICX:  I can tell you from 7.5 years of marriage, it probably won’t really get fixed.  You are going to have to decide that they can like you or not like you and either way is fine with you.  Be yourself.  Like Dr. Suess said, “Be who you are and say how you feel, because the peolple who matter don’t mind and the people who mind don’t matter.”.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m sorry you are going through this. I really am. That stinks. I think your fiance has a right view of the situation…. haters gonna hate, that’s what they’re best at. It’s best to ignore them because what they say comes from their own isnecurities and isn’t true. 

 How has your fiance handled this gossip revolving around you in his family? If he hasn’t yet I think he is the one who should address the issues in his own family, he needs to stand up and tell them not to talk about you like that. Once that has been done the rest is up to them…. to heal the rift or to ignore it and look like fools.

 I certainly don’t blame you for not wanting to be with them right now! I’ve had worse/similar issues with DH’s family from when we were dating through our engagement and finally at our wedding. They have never apologized and simply ignore the fact that they’ve pretty much lost their son in their refusal to own up to the hurt they caused him. 

 Hoping things work out for you! It’s not a good situation but hopefully this will all be over before your wedding. You might never have the best relationship with them but at least they may stop talking about you in this way. 

(( hugs ! )) 

I know it’s easy to get blinded into seeing only them in the picture of your life…. but what’s really important is YOU! 🙂 Focus on yourself and your future husband. You can still have joy together… if they’re not happy… that’s their own damn fault…. sad, but true! 

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsFuzzyFace:  I wholeheartedly agree with this. We brought my in-laws problems to our marriage counselor. Even they said it couldn’t be fixed. Some people refuse to change.   

Know that you can still have a great marriage and life even so! And… there are many others out there, even on the bee, who’ve been in your shoes and gotten through it. It gets better. 

Post # 6
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1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We had lots of issues so we ended up finding work 1300km away. Now we only have to deal with them twice a year when we visit my parents since they dont even bother coming to visit us ever.

Post # 7
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996 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@ICX:  ummm you don’t have to be bff with everyone in your fiance’s family

If you hate this girl, avoid her. She sounds like a silly child anyway. If your Future Mother-In-Law is dumb enough to believe lies, who cares. You just have to be polite and civil, if they cant manage the same then you don’t have to be in their company.

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