(Closed) Help! I think I bought the wrong dress

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
Member
7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

@pinwheels- I couldn’t find a picture of your dress on the internet.  Do you have a pic you can share? Even better, is there one of you in it?

You said that at the time you purchased it that you did think it was the one…  Are you sure this isn’t the usual post-purchase anxiety?  I think a lot of us go through that.

Are you going to have an opportunity to try it on again with some of the basic alterations soon?  What do your trusted friends and family think?  

I was like you and went through 80+ dresses.  At a certain point I had to realize that the way I feel about dresses might just be different than what I had imagined it would be like.  Does that make sense?  I might not have explained it very well.

Anyway, those are my thoughts for now.

Post # 4
Bee
13063 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

I don’t know if this will help, but here is my two cents.

If you don’t love the dress, start over.  But this time, try to focus your search.  Think back to the 80 dresses you tried on before and try to remember which ones you loved and what it was specifically that you loved about each dress.  Then, when you go to try on dresses again, you will have something very clear in your mind that you can share with the bridal shop so they can help you find "the one."  

Try not to be swayed by sale prices.  Sometimes getting a good deal makes a dress (or anything, for that matter) seem cuter/better/more useful than it would if it was full price.  Obviously, try to stay in your budget, but don’t let the fact that a dress is marked way down talk you into buying it unless you are sure it’s the one.  

If you’re not happy with the dress you bought now, you won’t be on your wedding day.  Do yourself a favor and continue trying to find the dress of your dreams.  Good luck!

Post # 6
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7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

@pinwheels- I do love the dress that you bought. (I think I’m partial to the flouncy skirt!)  But, the things I’m hearing you say now make me concerned that you may be happier with a different dress.

My purchase anxiety lasted 3 weeks, but I don’t think it was as strong as yours…

There are some Elles on pre-owned wedding dresses dot com.  I love the back of the Elle!  It’s beautiful.  As for the front, I’d have to see it on you, but that straight across the middle line that cuts through the middle at the waist and the hips doesn’t look good on me, so I tend to bias against that kind of style (but I think you are tinier than me–I’m more like a size 6).  I’m assuming you rocked it if you tried it on and loved it, but it is something to think about.

It’s not like you are out a ton of money if you end up going with a different dress, and in fact given the price I bet you could sell it for what you got it for.

Now I’m going to say something you may not want to hear (and nobody told me, but they should have)… Is there a dress out there somewhere that combines elements of both of these dresses that you would be stoked with?

Maybe you just haven’t found the one, and have been trying to make close enough work because you are tired of looking?  I’m going to see if I can think of some dresses that  combine the elements of both. I’ll post if I do.

Post # 8
Member
765 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Is this your Pronovias?  If it is, its STUNNING!

But if you don’t love it, don’t keep it.  Get what makes you happy.

 

What’s the classified search engine by the way?  I’d love to check it out.

Post # 10
Member
405 posts
Helper bee

You can def. see the difference in your expression. My $.02 is that you should BEAM in your dress, so go for the one that makes you smile the biggest! I bet if you search enough you’ll find one in your price range or maybe just a tad bit higher. Good luck with your search!

Post # 12
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752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Hi Pinwheels! I love the dress you chose, and I’m sorry you’re feeling anxious about it!

Have you checked out Priscilla of Boston gowns? I know they’ve had several styles in the past few seasons with lace and a dropped waist like you discussed (I know of at least one because it was the first dress I bought before I found the one for me).

I’d say that if you don’t love the Pronovias gown, no matter what anyone else thinks, you should try to sell it before having any alterations done. When is your wedding? Do you still have time to start over in your search?

I’m sure that you can find a dress that makes you as happy as you look in that picture you posted, if not the dress itself. If any place can help you find the dress for you, I’m sure the Hive can!

Post # 14
Member
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think AA has significantly better quality dresses than Davids Bridal (the material was more flattering…less stiff)

I feel your pain, I bought my dress somewhat early on and go through periods where I wonder if I shouldn’t have waited.  Some of the Maggie Sottero dresses are stunning!  But recently I tried my dress on again for a bustle alteration, and was very happy with it again…so I try to remember that feeling.  If you don’t feel happy with it though, seek out what you like…its stressful enough without being unhappy with your dress.

 

Post # 16
Member
7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Oh, I’m so excited for you…  It’s a gorgeous elegant dress that will suit you perfectly!

Doesn’t it feel so good to know you are getting something you love?  I nearly shed a tear when I realized I had to go back to the drawing board… but I was oh so glad that I did.

In the end it took an extra couple of weeks and some additional sweat equity… but now I have peace of mind.

Really, I’m thrilled that you’ve found what you love!

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