@Jess1483: I will definitely report this once my son is out of her daycare for good.
My husband and I have decided, FOR NOW, not to say anything to her. As HARD as it is for me to remain quiet (and believe me, I am usually pretty outspoken), I don’t think confronting her is going to miraculously turn her into Cinderella in all her glory; meaning, she’s not going to suddenly find adequate time to tend to my son, the other babies and the younger children. We fear that she may be so offended by what *may* come off as an accusation, and we don’t want any retaliation or further neglect towards our son. Again, I have no solid proof of what’s going on other than the unexplained, disgusting condition he comes home in….which in all reality, she could very easily deny.
I am new to this daycare, relatively new to the area and I am a first-time parent, so I don’t know any of the kids OR their parents and therefore, I can’t ask anyone what their experience has been there.
In the end, I may not say anything to her at all. I’m not sure what that will accomplish when I can just call the state and have them handle it. Our “out” with her will be that my mother has found retirement too boring and therefore changed her mind and wants to watch our son for us (if only that were true, I’d be a happy girl!).
My husband took a half day today and was able to pick him up by 11am and will do the same tomorrow. Sadly, my mother knows of the situation, I’ve asked her for help, but all she does is yell at me on the phone, “Well, where the hell were you when you were interviewing daycares?”….yeah, thanks, mom. That’s exactly what I need to hear. Not.
I have Monday off and I am taking two personal days on Tuesday and Wednesday to finish up looking, get my belongings from the current daycare and secure him in another place. I’ve checked out larger, more commercial daycares before I chose my current one and I liked them. The only problem was that the one I liked that was very close to my house didn’t have an opening. I’m on the list for the next spot whenever it should open. In the meantime, I have appointments at similar facilities that are a little further away, but are still close enough to be workable.
I totally agree with @MrsPanda99:
I DEFINITELY don’t think that all home daycares are like this! I realize that this is an isolated case. I just wish I didn’t have to deal with it at all! 🙁
Thanks again for all of your suggestions, help and support! I appreciate it!