Post # 47
Good luck finding a daycare! I also have a 4 month old who just started daycare this month. We’re in a commercial daycare (that I totally trust – I work for their corporate office) so while I can’t totally relate to your situation, I know how hard it is to leave your new baby with someone else for the day. I can’t imagine what you’re going through – knowing something’s not right but not having another choice right now. I really hope you’re able to get him somewhere different quick. I agree with everyone else, report them. My heart breaks for all the little kiddies that are there.
Post # 48
Just adding to the voices saying this doesn’t sound like a safe place for your son to be, especially if they are basically defrauding the system by having the husband registered as a caretaker but you know he is sleeping all day.
Post # 49
@MusicBee76: gosh this really sucks! Im so sorry. I hope you find a better place in the next few days and I really hope you will report her once your son is out. I’m sure both adults are expected to be awake for the ratio!
A family friend recently got licensed and my sister was nervous taking her son there because from Facebook the woman seemed overwhelmed with just her two grandkids. Luckily it’s turned out really well. I just wish shed stop posting pictures of my nephew on FB. Sigh.
Post # 50
I’m sure others have said this, but she is absolutely violating the rules by having too many children. Having two licensed providers means having two AWAKE and actively working with the children. This is disgusting. I’m so glad you are taking him out of there, he is not getting the care he needs. My sister is a licensed home daycare provider and she’s awesome. Her max is 6, but she has two kids of her own so she only takes care of 4 other children. She also does not accept children under 2 years because it is TOO MUCH WORK for one person to take care of an infant and 5 other children. She took care of her own daughter after she was born and it worked fine but will not do it for other children. Her kids are very well taken care of at her center. It disgusts me to hear that this happens in other places.
Post # 51
@MexiPino: FYI, it is against the TOS for someone to post photos of a minor on FB without permission from the parents. If your sister report the photo, it will be taken down. It might be just as easy for your sister to tell the family friend that she wants the photos deleted and to ask her not to post any more photos of her minor son.
Can you guess I’ve run into this issue?
Post # 52
@weddingmaven: Yeah, my sister doesn’t seem to care. I think I’m more sensitive to that because a good friend used to work for ICE in the pedophile division and she would tell me about how they’ll take perfectly normal pictures and photoshop them onto other bodies in sexual positions. I’ve talked to my sister about it but she doesn’t seem to care.
I did get a little passive-agressive yesterday, though. Babysitter posted a pic (where he has his mouth wide-open in a smile… yeah, that’s photoshop ready) and my cousin who is in NO way affliated with the babysitter commented on it. So I commented “Woah, (cousin) you can see this picture? Are you friends with (babysitter)?” It led to a conversation in the comments about how really anyone can see anything. I’m hoping it makes Babysitter rethink her posts.
Post # 53
@zumbaista: I am sorry you had a very bad experience but like anything in life not all in home licensed daycares are like this. My son goes to a in home licensed daycare and she has been doing daycare for over 25 years. She is awesome. My son gets more care than he would in a licensed center.
OP definately report her this is not normal at all. I have worked in a center myself and most definately this needs to be reported
Post # 54
Take your child out immediately and report this woman. She sounds neglectful at best. For your child to be that filthy at 4 months of age is absurd, most 4 month olds will only get a bit of spit up on them so for him to be caked in filth I would be wondering what was happening – whether the older kids are left alone with him etc which they shouldn’t be.
There ARE good in home based daycares but you have to sift through the crap, maybe look on Facebook and see if there are any local mum groups where you could ask questions about care in the area etc?
I hope you get this sorted.
Post # 55
Even with the husband being licensed, there are still too many. 3 infants and 8-9 preschoolers makes 12 kids. On average you can’t have more than 5 per one provider. Also, since the husband is asleep during the day, surely there is something illegal about that.
Post # 56
i would not let my child back to that daycare no matter what. i would fear that something horrible and dangerous could happen to your child while he’s there. i would work and find something/anything so he doesn’t have to go back. hes dirty this time but what if he gets sick or hurt?
Post # 57
I hope you find another arrangement for your little man fast! Good luck:)
Post # 58
I think confronting her would probably cause her to go on the defensive for a few weeks. She needs to be blindsided by the licensor so that an accurate report can be made. Don’t give her a heads up, so that she can make a half-ass effort to change before they check her out.
Post # 59
@kellyk1214: i found out that in my state, the state CALLS ahead and SCHEDULES the inspection with the home daycare provider. WTF? Yeah, give them plenty of time to look at their checklist and tidy up. But at the large daycare centers, the state shows up unannounced randomly throughout the year
i pulled him right out of the home daycare last week, my husband and I have taken time off from work to take care of him and he is scheduled to start in a daycare center where he will be in a nice, quiet, dimly lit room with only cribs and babies. I still HATE that I have to leave him at daycare at all, especially after this nightmare, but it will only be for two months until my husband retires and them he will be home with him until I’m done with work in June.
even my little guys sleep schedule is all off due to daycare. He use to sleep 8-9 hours a night since 7 weeks old and now is up every night at 1 or 2 am ;(. Work–a necessary evil.
Post # 60
@MusicBee76: As a routine thing or even when there is a negative report on file? Maybe the first visit is to warn and then there are follow up surprise visits after that?
Post # 61
FIND ANOTHER DAY CARE IMMEDIATELY!!!!