Hello everyone, I’m back with an update.
I decided to change tactics and not have any expectations. For the past 2-3 weeks, things have been REALLY good. He does things for me on his own now, like cleaning the kitchen on his own and doing all the laundry and cleaning up a bit before I get home.
He’s also talking to a friend about opening up a business with him. His friend already owns this business and wants to open a 2nd one with someone where he will pretty much be the financial backing, but not have to do all the work. This sounds perfect for my Fiance because we don’t have the finances to go 50/50 in opening a business, he really wants to own something, and if he has a purpose he will be really dedicated.
He’s still continuing to apply for jobs, just in case, but I’m really hoping he opens this up. He thinks it will be up and running by October.
The other day he even came up to me and told me that he loved me so much and really wanted to make this work and he ordered a couples thing from Tony Robbins and asked when we can start watching it.
Unfortunately, not everything is perfect. We had a really long weekend traveling last weekend and we were both tired from it. I didn’t ask him to get up early once this week to help me out in the morning with the pets or anything, I took care of everything on my own, even the two days I overslept and was 45 minutes late to work (I was THAT exhausted). So, considering I’ve let him sleep in every day, I didn’t think waking up early on the weekend would be a big deal. I guess because we didn’t really have plans, he didn’t have anything to wake up for. He finally woke up and was upset that I made food for myself (there was some for him, but he felt excluded) and I told him that I will no longer be making him breakfast every weekend morning because I don’t think it’s fair that I have to do that EVERY weekend, just to get him to wake up and then half the time, he just gets up and goes back to bed anyway.
Well, somehow we started arguing and I just got up and went into the other bedroom. I fell asleep (still really tired) and about 20-30 min after I fell asleep, he came into the room and very rudely and immaturely woke me up. I was LIVID. I just couldn’t control it anymore and started yelling. He kept telling me to stop yelling, but I was so mad I couldn’t.. I kept yelling louder and louder, to piss him back off. Eventually, he got up and grabbed my face and screamed at me to stop yelling. I threw some things at him, including a cup of water and now we’re in separate rooms and not talking again.
I don’t think that my asking him to wake up at a normal hour (11:30am, then 12:30pm, and then 2pm…) is the equivalent of him asking me to wake up in the afternoon – I was up from 8:45, so of course I’m going to be tired by the late afternoon when he’s NOT, bc he just woke up. I kept asking him if he wanted to get up and watch the Tony Robbins DVDs and he was just like, “Nope” and kept on snoozing, but I can’t catch up on sleep later?
I just want him to fucking wake up on the weekends and want to spend time with me!! WTF is wrong with that.
We haven’t had a counseling session since the last one about 2-3 weeks ago, but we have another one this week that we will be going to.