(Closed) Help! I turn into the biggest grouch when plans change – how can I get better?!

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I am the exact same way. i cannot handle change. i get really mad/upset. i don’t have any advice on how to make it better but i am interested to see what others say.

Post # 4
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2719 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yesss. I get soo mad. It’s so irrational!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I struggle with this too. When I do handle it well (which isn’t always…), at that first little twinge of anger, I stop, take a breath, and think, “Why do I feel this way? Is this worth being mad about?”. Stopping and thinking about it takes my mind off the shock factor of the change and lessens the anger reaction.

I think like anything else, to get good at it, it takes practice.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I am the exact same way and it drives my Fiance crazy!  It has gotten better though since he knows that I can be like that, when we are making plans that could change he qualifies it with “… but that could change, it’s a crap-shoot” (his favourite phrase ATM).   I find it helps to know going in that plans could change.

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