(Closed) Help! I’m going crazy!!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
44 posts


First things first have you figured out a budget for you ceremony and reception? That’s where you have to start. If you don’t have a budget you can’t figure anything else out. Once you have a budget you can start looking at venues that fit the feel you want and the budget you have.  Next make a top 3 list of the most important things to you for the wedding. For me my top three were Photographer, Food/Beverage and the cake.  KNowing that I knew where I wanted to put my money and what I could cut back on, like flowers…. I could honestly care less about flowers, as well as favors for the guests. I’m doing a DIY photobooth to cover the favor aspect.


So what’s important to you and your FI? and if you want to have a theme go for it, it really does make everything flow once you come up with a theme.

Post # 5
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Hey πŸ™‚

I’m new to the planing aswell, and SOOO overwhelmed! But we can get through this πŸ˜€ lots of Bees have had wonderful weddings and they’re all here to help us πŸ™‚

I think the venue is the biggest step – from there on you can book other vendors because you’ll know the date, what will or won’t be included etc.

As far as Photographers go, I’ve seen a lot offering a wedding package that includes the Engagement pics.. if that’s important to you, but maybe you don’t want other things in the package, feel free to ask them to cut the things you don’t want and arrange a new price. 

Good luck with your big reveal! I’m sure everyone will be excited for you!

Post # 6
1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

When looking at photographers, I set a budget that works for me and then just eliminated any photogs whose cheapest package is more expensive than that budget. 

For reference, my budget was around $1000 and the one we ended up picking is going to be $1045 including a $150 off coupon we got at a bridal show. 

Post # 7
1473 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

First thing is first: SET A BUDGET!

Nothing will get done without one and before you know it you’re spedning $25,000 on everyting when you only figured it would cost about $15,000.

The first thing we did was find a venue. This took us a couple of months because we were not paying crazy amounts of money for a medicore place. We finally went with an Art museum in my area and hired an outside caterer. This is A LOT cheaper than a typical wedding hall. We are spending $55 a person for everything including venue, flowers, photographer, cake, food, drinks, and decorations as opposed to $60 just for the food drinks and venue.

Also, see if you have a friend or someone you know in photography. That will usually save lots of $$$$ we are spending $700 on engagement photos, 2 shooters the day of the wedding ALL DAY as well as a videographer. We went with a friend f mine who just opened up a photography business.

I am also using fake flowers for my centerpieces. I am having huuuuuge centerpieces and if I were to use real flowers they would be costing me $120 a piece but with artificial flowers, they are only $14 a piece.

There are sooo many short cuts you can take to save money so don’t worry about it! take your time and have fun with it all. This is suposed to happen only once so don’t lose sight of WHY you are planning all of this!

Good luck!

Post # 8
1200 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

It will help once you’ve told everyone and people can refer you to vendors, #1!


We are very much on a budget and prefered to put the money towar home improvements and our honeymoon… so we didn’t do engagement photos.  We also didn’t hire a photographer… I have some talented friends in the picture taking category and I’m getting disposables for my guests (sister did this and they turned out BEAUTIFUL!)… then again, we aren’t having a ceremony beyond JOP so our money could go more twd the reception (best part, anyway!) 


Found a DJ that’s a family member of a friend who’s giving us a pretty great deal and the venue I always wanted for our reception is a friend of the family… so we did pretty great budget wise. But again, I wouldn’t have had those connections if we’d not announced it yet. After Thanksgiving…. options will open to you!  After the announcement just ask if anyone knows a photog, ideas for venue… etc:)

Post # 9
376 posts
Helper bee

how do we handle the pressure….we come here and vent to each other lol πŸ™‚

wedding planning its this magical exeperince that is shown on tv, its alot of hard work and a labor of love. but in the end you have a magical day, and are proud of yourself for pulling it all off!

Post # 10
1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am going to go against the grain, and every single wedding website around.  Figure out your guest list and then look at your budget.

I tried it the other way, and I was in tears on day one.  And so stressed I was on the verge of throwing up constantly.  So we made up a list of must haves (family, super close friends), a list of really really like to be able to invite (Older friends, extended family etc) and a list of IF we can make it work, we will invite(work associates, the less than really close friends types etc)

This helped us out HUGE, and took a ton of stress off.  We went with our core group and looked at venue/food options for that group and figured out costs of varuious options and venues food etc, as that was where we were going to spend the most money.  We were shocked at how much some things cost, so our entire budget was based around our core group, and we tailored from there.  We looked into everything from backyard (which wouldn’t save us a lot) to the full meal deal at a winery/resort.

Best of luck! 

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