Post # 1
My dressmaker said I ‘had’ to wear a veil for my traditional gown and that a veil was like the ‘lipstick’ on the makeup. We took a photo with a veil and without a veil, it was sooooo much better with the veil. So I bought the veil!
Got home and mum didn’t want me to wear it, thought it was too over the top and made me feel really bad for even thinking of it. My sister really wanted me to wear it and was trying to convince mum over the next few days as was I.
But no luck, so I didn’t wear my veil 🙁 Now it is less than 2 months since my wedding and I am constantly thinking about not having worn my veil and I am so upset and I don’t know what to do.
Now I’m looking at the photos trying to imagine how beautiful they would be with a veil, it seems like a huge part of my wedding is missing now. 🙁
Post # 3
It’s easy sometimes to get caught up on little details of the wedding, especially afterwards. However, I think you need to see the big picture here. You are married to the man you love. That’s all that really matters. Veil or no veil. And lesson learned, you’re a grown woman, stand up for yourself and what you want. You don’t always have to take mom’s advice.
Post # 4
I’m sorry you had to have this experience! Just keep in mind that you married the man you love. With the viel, without the veil….that’s not the important thing. Look at the pictures not to think about the veil, but look at them and see the love the two of you shared on that day and still share now. That is all that matters…
Post # 5
If you honestly can’t get past it, put your dress on again, do your makeup/hair, wear your veil and take some pictures.
Post # 6
I can totally relate. I didn’t wear my veil because it was entirely too windy. I am a little sad because I always dreamed of a cathedral veil.
Post # 7
@hopefloats: I would totally stage at least one photo lol.
Post # 8
If you can’t stop dwelling, is it possible to do a day after session type photo shoot? You could wear your veil then.
Post # 9
@randombee: I don’t know if this will help you or not, but I had to respond when I saw your post. You see, I WORE my veil. The. Entire. Night. In EVERY. SINGLE. PICTURE. After my wedding, my mother and one of my aunts and one of my cousins raved about my wonderful wedding but noted that they did not get to see my “pretty hair.” I spent months after my wedding feeling very upset about two major things, one of which was that I never took OFF my veil.
So, do you know what I did? About six months after my wedding, I had my wedding hair and make up re-done and had my engagement portrait photographer do a beautiful in-studio bridal portrait of me, WITHOUT my veil. And I LOVE it!
It’s been three years since my wedding (my third anniversary was yesterday, actually!), and it took quite some time for me to finally get over the “I never took off my veil” disappointment. However, that bridal portrait, which is now framed and hanging in my new house as well as in my parents’ home — and has been posted on FB so many of my friends and family also could see it — REALLY helped me. Why don’t you do the same thing and have a formal portrait done WITH your veil? 🙂
ETA: I see Mrs. Cheetos and some others suggested the same thing while I was posting my long response! LOL
Post # 10
Thank You EVERYONE for your kind thoughts and help! I’m so glad I’m not the only one who has these kind of dilemmas!
I didn’t want to have to fuss with a re-shoot but maybe I should contemplate it if I still can’t stop thinking about it in a month or 2..
Brielle: Thank you for sharing your story, it helps alot, I’m so happy for you that you made the effort to get the photo you wanted in the end! 🙂 and congrats on your anniversary!
Post # 11
Still regretting, majorly!! Anyone else on here regretted not wearing a veil this much!!!!!!! Post photos pleaseee
Post # 12
I barely wore my veil at all and was really sad that the only photos I had with the veil were during the ceremony. So as many bees suggested here, I did a belated day-after shoot…I’m so happy I did. Since I had some qualms about my wedding photography in general, this cleared up quite a bit of my photo agnst. It was fun to put on my dress again, and pretty cheap too.
Post # 13
I know this thread is a little old… well my “i cant get over stage is even older” I got married nov 2011 and I forgot to tell my hair dresser to put in the veil… as we are doing “getting ready photos” my mom and I couldnt stick the comb in.. it started tearing and she had to leave to fix it for the ceremony while i took pic with no veil… =( that was always my ideal look…so until this day I loose sleep and obsses about it…(even googled if it could be photoshoped in there) we did an after shoot just becasue of that but my husband thought it was funny and kept mocking me and the photogroper… (RUDE OF HIM) AND still i cant get over it.. I’ve been talking to my photographer cause there wasnt any good potraits to frame of us two only frm that day…but even if i’d convinced them to take THAT ONE MONEY SHOT! i cant. my husband is serving some time at a prison camp…. and all the things that went wrong that day, I keep wondering if it was a sign… but I regret not having that veil on so badly…
I really hope someone replies, because i am having a lot of difficulty with this…
Post # 14
I would stage another photo. You could always -as seems to be the fashion right now – do a boudoiy/veil shoot at the same time. So you can have your hair and make up done and have some head shots THEN do some more…yeah I’m hiding myself with a veil shots. Then you have them as difinitive , different things but also the veil shot you wanted. I wouldn’t show your mum them though! Then that way you have a NEW association with the veil, a sexy positive one and not a negative one. Plus I am sure you’ll feel wonderful doing them and…we’ll bet your partner will love the too! 🙂
I’m thinking something like this:
Tinted Wedding Boudoir
Post # 15
@mecattacow: Thank you! i that sounds like a good idea… of course i wouldnt be able to show mom but thats okay..lol.. But this seems something I could do and Im pretty sure the hubby would appreciate it very much so.. maybe i can go a little less proacotive on some so he can display it on his night stand when he is home.. =) thank you! thank you! Im actually excited.