Post # 1
Can any bees please please please help me!!!!
I just got engaged and we have been going back and forth trying to figure out whaat type of wedding we want. First we said big, then we went with small the medium and now I’m back to a small wedding.
I have two jobs and go to school. I dont have the time or the strength to be completely stressed out. We are not an Encore couple and are very simple and low key. We are paying for our own wedding although my parents offered to give us 5 grand. The reason I dont want to except it is first, because i dont want the stress of having to invite “certain” people my parents want me to invite and secondly, I feel better spending less money and putting it to our home renovations and savings.
We have been extremely cautious with our money because after i was laid off last october, it proved to us that our way of saving money came in pretty handy. I don’t know what to do or say to my parents when they come tomorrow.
Sorry for the long post but honestly i dont know who else to talk to. My FH is happy with a small wedding too. I just dont want to regret it.
Thanks for hearing me out!
Post # 3
Since you are paying for your wedding yourself, I think the most important place to start is with your budget. How much do you realistically want to spend for your wedding?
Once you have that amount, then you can figure out more of the details.
I think it’s really important that you stick to what you want! Don’t let anyone “force” you into having a bigger wedding, especially since you are paying for it. Have the wedding that YOU want, and if that means a smaller wedding with just your close friends and family, then do it! 🙂
Post # 4
I agree dowht can afford andlso what is going to make the two of you happy it sounds to me that you are small wedding type of girl. Anoter option is to have a small wedding and ten large informal party afterwards to invite everyone. This is one way to avoid hurt feelings, avoid stress and save money.
Post # 5
Since it sounds like being financially responsible is important to you, decide your budget and that will help you zero in on the wedding you want, though not entirely because there are just so many awesome ways to host a wedding these days. You can do a small, elegant sit down dinner for 30 people but for the same amount of money to do a cake/dessert and champagne reception in a backyard with an ipod, you know?
So I guess what I am trying to say is set your budget first and then decide how you can best use that amount of money. Good luck!
Post # 6
I’d start with a guest list…who do you absolutely want to be there?
If it’s 20 people then a small wedding is best, if it’s closer to 90 then maybe you need to look for a venue.
We wanted to do a small wedding but Fiance family is about 60 ppl. Mine is only 20. I wanted my aunts and uncles and cousins to be there because we’re close. So he wanted to invite his aunts, uncles and cousins as well. That’s how we ended up with a venue and a much bigger guest list.