- Awesomet317
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
I dunno how to even start planning the ceremony/vows. I am not really religious and I have no clue what goes into a wedding ceremony
I dunno how to even start planning the ceremony/vows. I am not really religious and I have no clue what goes into a wedding ceremony
lol I have no clue either! I’m not religious so a church or a priest feels awkward- people keep telling us to just do what we want… umm… and this is why we haven’t set a date for years and years *shrug*
I posted my full ceremony that might help even a smidge?
@Mrs2b2014: I’m kinda new at this where can I find it?
@Awesomet317: click on her name and it brings up threads she has started. Best of luck
boards.weddingbee.com/topic/our-full-ceremonyadvice-needed#axzz2lMfz4Cqh
@Awesomet317: Our celebrant gave us a book in our first meeting with a bunch of example ceremony layouts, readings and vows we could use if we wanted to. She showed us the certain parts that had to be kept (by law), and we were free to work around with the rest of it. I just went through the book, picked out bits and pieces I liked, and put our whole ceremony together.
Hmm good to know I’ll have to email him and see what’s up
Our officiant gave us this book it was so helpful! Nothing super religious and it gave tons of examples. We ended up using a lot from the book and then we wrote our own vows. I could send you ours if you would like to see it before you buy the book.
I found a super helpful book! “The wedding ceremony planner” by reverend Judith Johnson. Everything is all broken out and has some fantastic examples on how to design your ceremony.
I searched on here (boards and blog) and found a few examples posted by other Bees and Bloggers and used those to plan my ceremony out. Try that!
If you’re not religious, then you’ll need to find a civil officiant. That person will be TREMENDOUSLY helpful in planning your ceremony, and don’t be shy about asking them for help. You’re not expected to know how to plan a wedding ceremony. After all, you’ve never done it before! However, even if you don’t have an officiant yet, there are some questions you can answer for yourself…
1. Is there a passage from a book you’ve read, or a poem, that really strikes a chord with you? If so, that’s something you might use as a reading.
2. Do you want to write your own vows, or would you feel more comfortable with call-and-response style?
3. Do you want to include any rituals like a unity candle or a sand ceremony?
Thinking about these details will set you on your way. Really, all most ceremonies include are a little address to your guests about marriage (or about the couple), the couple making vows, and the couple exchanging rings. It takes about twenty minutes and is very easy.
All the other ladies have excellent advice!
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