(Closed) Help-I'm so lost

posted 4 years ago in Venue
  • poll: Which should I choose?
    Elope in Vegas! Friends and family can watch the ceremony live on the internet. : (3 votes)
    9 %
    Local chapel! Everyone can attend and celebrate with you in person. : (7 votes)
    21 %
    Simple civil ceremony! Short, sweet, cheap, and 4 most important people in attendance : (23 votes)
    70 %
  • Post # 3
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    12257 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Can you get married at your local church, then do a cake/punch/champagne reception at the church’s gym/rec room?

    I bet it would cost WAY less per person, and you could have TONS of people!

    Post # 5
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    181 posts
    Blushing bee

    Civil ceremony sounds like the best combination of what you want and what he wants. I’d definitely go with that. If the family objects after that, you can always plan a bigger event for a vowel renewel anniversary or something.

    Post # 6
    Member
    920 posts
    Busy bee

    That third option (simple civil ceremony) sounds absolutely lovely!  Depending on how young your kids are they may not remember the wedding when they’re older, but you could take some photos and I’m sure when they’re old enough they’ll love to know that they were there, even if they don’t remember it.

    ETA: Oh, I forgot to address the local chapel option.  I would be inclined to steer clear of that, given that (a) your FI only wants a small ceremony, and (b) it sounds like there could be some family drama if you choose that option.

    Post # 7
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    2872 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I voted for Vegas, but I think a civil ceremony with just witnesses might be the best compromise.  Don’t have all family there, especially if that’s not what you want; that’ll just start drama.  And, as PP said, I think it would be wonderful for your children to see photos of them at your wedding when they are older.

    Post # 8
    Hostess
    7564 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I would go with the civil ceremony. But really, don’t worry about what your mother wants. What would make you guys the happiest? 

    Post # 9
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    1480 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

    I say last option of a simple ceremony and then allow your mum to throw you a celebration party after you guys are settled

    Post # 10
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    9 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 2017 - Ballroom

    @nina515:  

    I think option #3 works out best for all parties.  Good Luck!

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