Post # 1
Let’s start this post out by saying that my degree is in Food Science and Human Nutrition- so the situation I find myself in is not due to lack of knowledge. I have since college (9 years) steadily gained weight to high around 165 lbs (I’m 5’5") and yo-yo’d to a low around 144lbs. I lack serious will power when it comes to this area of my life and when I got engaged last September- I thought- Yes, this is finally the incentive I need to get into the shape I want to be in. At the time, I weighed around 145lbs and was really hoping to be around 130 for the big day. Well here we are, 9 months later and I’m still hovering around 145lbs. I’ve tried every "diet" under the sun over the past few years. I’ve been using a Weight Watchers "points" mentality for the past year or so and that’s what got me down about 10 lbs from where I was- but I seem to be stuck. I’ve started working out, which I believe is helping, but I still seem to not be able to break this plateau and I get so frustrated that I just feel like giving up. I’m not working towards some unattainable or unrealistic goal of looking like a supermodel. I just want to get rid of the extra flab (and the health issues like slightly elevated cholesterol, etc that come with it) and tone up. I’m not asking to look like a pro-athlete- I just need to be happy and healthy and that is not where I am right now.
So- I’m reaching out to my fellow bees for help. I have my first (and most likely only) dress fitting in 5 weeks and the wedding is 9 weeks after that (keeping in mind that there will be a bridal shower and bachelorette weekend mixed in there). I’d love to be down to 135 by the fitting (just under 2lbs per week, not unrealistic) and then spend the remaining 9 weeks getting off the last 5 lbs and toning up. I’m not asking for a miracle, just hoping for suggestions of a healthy eating plan that might give me some good jump started results?? Anyone got any ideas??
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Buff Brides (you can get the book for $9 on Amazon). I couldn’t seem to lose more than 2 pounds dieting, but combining Weight Watchers and this workout (and you HAVE to do both cardio AND weight lifting!) has helped me drop 10 pounds (it took me a few months, but it was the first time I actually started making progress!).
Good luck! The most important thing with exercise is to make sure you’re doing cardio and weight lifting together.
Post # 4
After I had my children I always seemed to be 30 lbs over weight even 4 months later…I devised my own diet and it seemed to work well and I felt great! Here’s what I did. I gave up sugar totally. I ate all the meat and veggies I wanted…no restrictions (I did avoid fried foods) and I seriouslly limited my carbs. If I wanted bread (really wanted) I’d have 1/2 piece..if I ordered a burger, I’d take it off the bun…If I wanted a potato, I only had half of one. I gave up pasta all together. So, it’s basically a low carb high fiber, high protien diet. The secret was it was easy. I didn’t have to count calories, or points. I’d lose the weight within 3 months and keep it off til I got prenant again. Try it and let me know how you do. I’m rooting for you!
Post # 5
I’m sure you know – calories in, calories out. My weight has always gone slowly up and down over the years through dieting, and what I’ve found to always work consistently is boring old calorie counting. Weightwatchers is great for people who aren’t as familiar with nutrition and need a less detailed means of tracking food, but it sounds like you may need a little more precision. I use fitday.com, but I’ve heard sparkpeople.com is also good. Good luck!
Post # 6
Sorry everyone- my whole post title didn’t come out- it basically said, I’m worried that if my wedding isn’t enough to motivate me, nothing will be…
Post # 7
It sounds like you’re somewhat mentally engaged but that you’re just not finding a way to get results and be motivated enough.
For me, there are certain things that I know I can easily do myself, and there are certain things that I *should* be able to do myself, but require extra motivation. For example, a couple months ago I hired a financial planner. I *could* have saved myself a few hundred dollars and done several hours of research on how to best manage my finances and create my own long-term and short-term goals, but with a planner I feel extra motivated. I feel like because someone is watching, I HAVE to show results and keep my mind on those goals. Truthfully, I probably never would have made the time to set financial goals or open and manage retirement accounts.
I don’t think this is entirely unrelated to what you are experiencing. It sounds like you really want to do this, but just need a more structured approach. I would actually try one of a couple things:
– you could hire a personal trainer at a gym. This way you not only have help making sure you’re doing things properly, but you have someone watching and wanting to see results with you!
– buy a package of workouts/yoga/pilates sessions. If you have to buy 10 classes at a time, you’re much more likely to actually use them after purchasing than to simply fork over the dough and not actually go.
– you said you keep a "weight watchers" points mentality, but have you actually JOINED weight watchers? I would do that if you aren’t already a member!
Post # 8
As a follow-up to Miss Burgandy’s message, a personal trainer has made a huge difference for me. The accountability of it keeps me honest and it’s so great to have guidance. I told him what I wanted to change about my body and he told me what to do and I"m seeing results.
Results does NOT always equal the scale moving! I’m just barely squeezed into my former "skinny jeans", I’ll be able to wear them within a couple of weeks. By then I think I’ll be 20lbs heavier than I was last time I wore them. But they fit because of the strength training and the fact that even thought the scale isn’t moving, my body is sort of just becoming more compact. Everyone who works at the gym who I have spoken with tells me the same thing: don’t get hung up on the scale, it’s your bmi, body fat % and the fit of your clothes/how you feel that is most important.
GOOD LUCK and keep us posted on how you progress!
P.S. I also concur with joining WW. I’m not following any structured plan b/c myself, I can never stick with them for long. But when I was on WW I always found the support and tips of meetings very helpful, and I have considered joining just to go to meetings for those reasons.
Post # 9
Thanks everyone. Unfortunately, you all are better women than I am. The accountability thing that should come from spending money on a gym membership, trainer or Weight Watchers is not a gene I have. I’ve been a WW member and unfortunately, if I had a bad week and knew the weigh in would be bad- I just didn’t go. Same thing with the gym. And my 16 personal training sessions that were supposed to be twice a week lasted me almost a year. That’s what makes me feel a little hopeless.
I’m hoping that if I can find a plan that starts giving me results again, those results will encourage me to keep pushing forward and stick with it. Thanks for all of the advice and please keep it coming!!
Post # 10
Unfortunately, if you’re anything like I am, there’s not a whole heck of a lot that will get you motivated to do much of anything. I’m not massively overweight, and I wear clothes that make me look smaller than I am. I know I can find a dress that makes me look nice, and I’m focused enough to realize that if I weigh 15 pounds more than I should, my wedding is still going to be a beautiful, wonderful day that will not be tarnished in the long run by the scale.
What has seriously gotten me in gear is my fiance. I whine and complain about my weight every other day (one day of working out and eating right, one day of eating crap and being lazy), and I recently found out that I have prediabetes and high cholesterol. He is worried about my health and I know it hurts him and makes him doubt my concern over my health when a bag of Doritos can sway my motivation. I don’t want him to think I’m a wuss and a total pushover when it comes to the goals I have for my life…because that reflects on the kind of person I am.
I know he forgives me and loves me when I mess up, but it’s definitely helped having him here to motivate me a bit more. (Just to clarify, he thinks I’m lovely the way I am- I just have these weight goals that I want to achieve so badly!)
It might help to consider that the way you treat your body is a direct reflection of the kind of person you are. That’s harsh, I know, but it’s pretty much the only thing that’s stuck with me and helped me.
Post # 11
(I apologize in advance if this sounds harsh) but…I think that if you skip WW or training sessions if the outcome is going to be bad, then you don’t really want the results. If you really want to make this work, then you have to become more disciplined and force yourself into a situation that might be uncomfortable but ultimately worthwhile.
A desire for a change isn’t something that I can give you, or anyone else here can give you, it’s something you have to find within yourself. I think you really need to ask yourself if you want to lose the weight, or if you’re just saying that you want to but really think that things are acceptable the way they are, and that a change might be nice but isn’t worth the effort and mental stress.
It’s not that it’s anything bad to not want to lose weight, but I guess I’m just saying you might want to give this a little more thought and determine if this is what you really want.
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2020 - Oakland Manor
The Eat to Live book by Dr. Joel Furhman saved my freaking life. Okay, well maybe that was overdramatic, but he sure did change it. I committed to eating that way for 6 weeks and I (no joke) lost 20 pounds. At first, I thought it was BS, and that anything that you could lose 20lbs in 6 weeks would be unhealthy – but I’ve never felt better!
The fact that I lost so much weight so much faster than anything I’d ever tried before is what really motivated me to stick with it. I should also mention that I lost those 20lbs pretty much ONLY by changing what I ate, I’ve been eating so much more volume since starting to eat this way – it’s wonderful for me. I’ve only started to workout a lot more recently because I slowed down after losing 30 pounds, so I figured I needed to add more workouts to make the difference since I had already lost so much by changing my food alone.
I really can’t recommend that book enough, the real difference for me came from not jsut changing how much i ate but what i ate, I never feel deprived b/c I’ve been making such fantastic food!
Post # 13
Sun, your stats are very interesting. I’m in the same boat- 5’5", maxed at 165, joined WW and started cycling, got down to 145 and now the scale won’t move, despite 40 mile bikes rides, still being on WW, etc. The one approach I’m trying now is to do some heavy lifting. "New Rules of Lifting for Women". It’s too early to tell yet if it will work, but I’ve tried just about everything else in the world. I’m a gym rat, and tired things Dr. Fuhrman style, but with little sucess. I’ll let you know in a month how the weights are going.
Post # 14
@dorsay- Thanks for the recommendation- I actually saw one of your earlier posts about it and picked it up at the bookstore today. I do tend to be like you and when I see results, it motivates me to keep going. I’m going to do my best to get through the 6 week program bc I honestly think that could put me at my goal weight. I know how to eat now to maintain my weight, it’s just getting that last bit off that’s the challenge!! Thanks again- I’ll let you know how it goes!
@Miss Burgundy- no worries about the note. I do WANT to lose the weight and for health reasons, I NEED to lose the weight. I’m tired of not liking how I look in pictures and it typically contributes to feeling like I look fat. I get really motivated and am on a kick for 3-4 weeks, then something happens to knock me off and I get really upset at myself and it takes a lot to get back into the swing. I know no one can give me the committment or dedication- that’s not what I’m asking for- I was just hoping for a jump start that could get me going again and past this hump and to the finish line. If I can start getting results again, I think I can make it to my goal and maintain. I don’t care if I fluctuate 2-4 pounds once I’m at my goal weight- that’s life. I just need help getting past this hump to that final goal.
Thanks all- I appreciate the feedback and I’m all about a direct, real approach– it does motivate me and give me a little kick in the butt!!
Post # 15
Ok, this is a bit of a different approach but it has really helped me! I work with children who have autism. A lot of them do non-traditional therapies to help with energy and alertness and that type of thing. So I kind of ‘borrowed’ from the things that had been successful with my kiddies, including a strong B vitamin, Q10, fish oil, zinc, and magnesium supplements. I also bought one of those natural light boxes because I’d seen it do amazing things for my guys. This combo has helped my energy level SO much and I find it 100 times easier to get to the gym!
Quick disclaimer – as with anything you put into your body, even vitamins, if you go that route do it under a physician’s guidance.
Post # 16
Just want to say that I totally know that feeling of being unable to get motivated, and being really frustrated with how I look, and frustrated with myself for not doing more to get rid of the extra pounds. I hear you on the lack of long term motivation. Finally this winter, after gaining my "winter layer" and getting really fed up, I did something completely crazy: I signed up for a half marathon at the beginning of August. My training schedule started 16 weeks before the race, and I ended up losing 8 pounds in the first 8 weeks.
For the longest time it was all I could do to get myself to work out once a week… twice a week was really good. Committing myself to do a 13 mile race is scary enough that I feel like I can’t skip workouts, because if I do, I won’t be able to get through the race. I never really liked running that much and was seriously worried that I wouldn’t be able to do this.. I signed up with a friend but she travels all the time for work so I’ve been training on my own, with a schedule that I combined from runnersworld.com and Jeff Galloway’s plan. I’ve been constantly amazing myself by discovering that I am in fact capable of working out on a regular basis! What really helped was that training started off easy – 2 mile runs, 3 times a week. I’ve continued running 3 days a week, and I guess just by building up my milage, the weight is coming off. At the beginning I was really careful about eating too – actually reading Eat to Live helped a lot, so I think that’s a great book for you to check out as mentioned above. Upping my fruits/veggies and watching my processed food intake has worked well for me.
After the 8 lb loss I’ve been less careful about eating – running so much makes me hungry all the time and I find myself indulging – but I’m maintaining the loss. I know it’s not for everyone, but just wanted to share my experience. I’m still not much of a runner in that I’m pretty slow, but I’ve gotten through 9 mile runs on my own now, and it is a great feeling of accomplishment. And I was just telling my hubby that one of the best things about this experience is the fact that I actually lost weight… I know it sounds superficial but it’s so nice to have my clothes fit well again! Guess the point is that if you want things to change, you might have to shake yourself up and do something drastic.. good luck finding something that works for you!