(Closed) help.. in need of advice..

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
809 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Sometimes I read the waiting posts and I feel sad for the girl posting. I have a different feeling about this though. I wouldn’t worry too much about this one, maybe he had more money saved than you thought. I think that even if he doesn’t propose this weekend, it’s obvious he’s starting to really think about it. My Fiance told me that he didn’t want to take me ring shopping until he had made the decision that he wanted to marry me. He says by the time he took me ring shopping it was a done deal in his mind. Unless your guy is the type to play mind games I wouldn’t worry about it, doll πŸ™‚

Post # 4
2892 posts
Sugar bee

I agree with swanks4tw.

Are you guys pretty open about your finances or are you assuming he couldnt possibly afford the ring just because the other purchase was an expensive one? Because if you don’t know the details of his finances there is still a really good chance that he still has every intention of purchasing a ring or already has the money put aside for it. My guy and I are pretty intense when it comes to saving and budgeting and I have an idea of what’s in his account from week to week. It’s just something we discuss a lot.

If you guys do talk about what’s in the pocket book quite frequently I can see how this would be very confusing and upsetting. But, on the plus side, at least he’s initiating conversation and actively getting your ring info. This is a huge step for a lot of guys.

Give it some time. I’m sure he has a plan in mind. P.S. Welcome! πŸ™‚

Post # 6
153 posts
Blushing bee

hmmm. I’d say don’t give up just yet.  Hopefully all of those signs mean that he’s going to propose soon even if he did just buy something expensive…

But if some time goes by without progress maybe you could talk to him? Let him know that while all the talk about the future is nice, it’s a little hurtful when nothing comes of it.

Guys can be clueless sometimes.


Post # 7
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My gosh, I could have written this post?

My ring is being paid for.. I know that.

SO sold his bike and raised lots of money for it. There is me thinking my ring would be paid for sooner than I think!

Alas no, he’s just bought an even more expensive bike! (and yes we share finances so I would know if he had a secret stash of cash!)

No advice, more like “I know exactly how you feel” scenario.

Best waiting wishes! x

Post # 8
538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

it sounds like he has a plan.

and maybe because you went ring shopping time is moving super slow…at least that is how  I feel. I know my bf is also paying for the ring or is done and is waiting to propose. But I feel like it’s taking longer than I though to get engaged, I’m just anxious πŸ™‚

Post # 9
2892 posts
Sugar bee

Another thought: Is there a chance he decided to finance the ring? Because, if that were the case, he could still afford to get his toy AND buy a ring without draining his account. And I’m sure I’m reading into it too much, but whenever I get someone something expensive I almost immediately go out and buy myself something as well. Not sure why. Just happens. But if he found out that he could get something with a super reasonable payment plan do you think he would have jumped on it?

If anything, I’d relish all the affection if I were you. How often are guys super lovey? πŸ™‚ My guy has been attentive and sensitive and very loving lately. Based on our recent talks I’m sure something is coming soon. But I’m loving this guy that took over my SO’s old body so much that the ring can wait a little bit, this is too awesome. Take advantage lady! πŸ™‚

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