(Closed) Help!! insecure!

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2004

@BirdyBe:  awe I’m sorry. I know how that feels. I developed some stretch marks on my inner thighs during puberty and i was mortified! But fear not, they will fade and become unnoticeable in time. I got them again on my belly while I was pregnant, and I was annoyed, but not totally freaked because I knew they would fade. I used all kinds of products to get rid of them (including things that cost $50 for a tiny bottle), and surprisingly the one that worked quickest/best for me was the Palmers skin therapy oil. You can get it at amazon for like $10, and they also sell it at walmart. I swear it worked wonders for me. But everyones skin is different. But I mean, for $10, it’s worth a shot..

Post # 4
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853 posts
Busy bee

I don’t know of any creams, but I can almost guarantee you that you are your biggest critic. Remember, men don’t pay nearly as much attention to these kinds of things! I think if you can embrace your body and love every bit of you, that is FAR more attractive than perfection.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Stretch marks are caused by hormones, so no creams will prevent them/get rid of them. But vitamin E works to lessen the redness in scarring so you might want to get a moisturizer with that in it. Or get pure vitamin E in capsules, open them and put them on the marks.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

You know what I’ve found to be best for my insecurities? Telling my guy. Seriously. Not a whine fest that makes me look like a depressed insecure maniac. πŸ™‚ But I tell him. If I’m feeling insecure about it it’s sometimes due to the fact that things seem worse to me than they really are. He’s good about reassuring me, pointing out that I’m crazy (sometimes). Tell him. Nothing helps better than your guy reminding you’re still sexy and perfect to him, no matter what. Call it emotional cream. πŸ™‚ 

Post # 7
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389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@angela85:  I never knew they were caused by hormones! Learn something new every day πŸ™‚

I have some stretch marks on my thighs and they’re mostly invisible now.. when I showed my Fiance, he said he didn’t notice before. I then told him that I’ve never seen a woman without any – literally. We gt them in different places, and some are more pronounced than others, but I’ve really never had a woman around me that was completely stretch mark free.

I think 90%  of the time, guys don’t notice and I can guarantee you, 100%, that that’s not what your SO is thinking about when you get intimate! Of course it’s fine that you’d like to help them fade quicker, but while that is going on, don’t worry too much about it πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Stretch marks are way below the skin’s surface in the connective tissue and fat cells underneath the skin. Creams do NOT work. I don’t even understand why they are allowed to be on the market, given that their claims are total crap.

The only thing you can do is wait. They will fade to where you can barely see them – but they will always be there.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t have any ideas for getting rid of them, but in the meantime, I would look for something sexy to wear. A cute lace teddy by itself will guarentee his attention is somewhere other then the legs lol, but you could also find some lacy thigh high stockings, garter belt and heels for a more covered sexy look.  I know that if I take the time to put on something pretty I feel better in general- I nitpick my flaws less, and focus more one how awesome I look in what I’m wearing.  

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I have stretch marks on my hips and tops of my thighs but I don’t really give a crap about them to be honest. Lots of women have them, big deal.

Your SO finds you gorgeous and beautiful, and there is really no reason to get down about stretch marks. Chin up πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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1360 posts
Bumble bee

@BirdyBe:  I’m having the same issue!!!!

Except my stretch marks are purple-ish and they’re really freaking me out.

Also, is it normal for them to kind of spread? They were just on my inner thigs but now they’re on my outer thighs. I don’t know WHAT to do.

Post # 13
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2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@StefLovesJamie:  They will fade – when they first crop up, they are dark in color

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I highly doubt that when you are naked, that he is zeroing in on the stretch marks.

Post # 15
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1360 posts
Bumble bee

@nycsa:  Oh thank goodness. I feel tons better now! I can handle them being pale, I don’t care about them, it’s just the color that worried me.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

My SO has them too from putting on weight quickly when he was younger, I just call them his zebra/tiger stripes lol. I notice they are there but they don’t make him any less sexy, I have the same response to them as his belly button or ear lobes – meh

 

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