(Closed) Help! Inviation wording..My Fiance’s Mother and Step Mother have the SAME NAME.

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

How about something like this:

James and Barbara Smith… wedding of their daughter Barbie Jean to Michael Quincy Jackson, son of Robert and Linda Jackson….”

Who cares if Linda refers to the current or the ex-wife? The groom’s family must be aware of who is the mother and who is the stepmother and unless the current wife wants to be introduced as “stepmother of the groom,” there shouldn’t be confusion for others as people will see the MOG when she enters the ceremony venue and if/when they do the mother-son dance.

Post # 4
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5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Would this be a situation where you can include FI’s mom’s middle name or initial? You could apply this throughout so it doesn’t stand out as much. Also, if I remember (and I’m not so great on invitation etiquette) aren’t divorced parents named separately? Such as “James and Barbara Smith… wedding of their daughter Barbie Jean to Michael Quincy Jackson, son of Robert Jackson and Linda Jackson….” I think separating them and using the last names on each signifies that it is the separated Robert and Linda (FI’s mom).

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The divorced parents’ names should be on separate lines

 The fact that the 2 moms have the same first name is irrelevant.

Mr. and Mrs. Robert Allen Brooks

request the honour of your presence

 at the marriage of their daughter

Melissa Ann

to William James Russo

son of Mrs. Joanne Ruth Russo

and Mr. and Mrs.Anthony Thomas Russo

edit: sorry I misread your post the first time

Post # 6
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5823 posts
Bee Keeper

Does your FSMIL want her name on the invite as well?  Because I can see how that would be difficult!  You could still do the above but I guess it would be:

Mr. and Mrs. Robert Allen Brooks

request the honour of your presence

 at the marriage of their daughter

Melissa Ann

to William James Russo

son of Mrs. Joanne Ruth Russo

and Mr. and Mrs. Anthony Thomas Russo

Post # 7
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1510 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Why do his parents need to be listed on the invitation anyway?  Traditionally, only the bride’s parents are listed.

Post # 8
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1025 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Mrs. Louboutin:Traditionally, yes, but I know a lot of parents of grooms who get pretty upset about it. 

I agree with @julies1949

Post # 9
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14496 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

The mom, if divorced, i believe is a Ms.  and no longer a Mrs.  I could be wrong, but this is how my mom does it.

Post # 10
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1559 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@sonj818: Are you and I marrying the same man? Fi’s mom and dad got divorced, and his mom and step-mom are separated only by different middle names. 

Personally, since Fiance and I are paying for most of the wedding, we are leaving the parents names off. If anything, it will be “Miss Little Bird and Mr. Little Bird, with their parents”…. but that’s just us…

Now, just wait until you have babies and have to have the “What are we going to call grandma” discussion…. 

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