Post # 1
Ok…. Im having some issues…. I ordered invitations from a store and they finally came in… I just called a calligrapher and I am meeting her on Monday with my list of names and addresses… But I just realized I have an issue… The inviations that I ordred did not come with an inner envelope… they are just a big square inviation with a ribbon that holds all the litter cards… that fits in the one envelope …..
My problem is wtih the wording … specifically (plus ones and family)…
I had no clue about the ettiquette till now where I am researching it online… It says you are not suppose to write out & guest or & family on the outside on the outter evelopes that is left for the inner envelope ( which I don’t have)….
I saw online that I can write out the children’s names under the parents names on the outer envelope, but how do I let the invitee know that they can bring a guest…. ( I have already written out B/f and G/f names that I know they will be bringing)… but not sure what to do with those people who I don’t know who they may bring if they come…
I hope this makes sense and really hope someone can help me out!! I dont know what to do since my invitations do not have an inner envelope. Im worried the outter envelope will become cluttered with all the names and addresses…. and I need it finalized before monday… 🙁
Post # 3
You pretty much have two choices if you want it to be clear to people:
1) Buy an additional envelope that everything fits inside, and do the mailing addresses on there, and the “Jane Smith and Guest” thing on the ones includeded on your invites, or vice versa.
2) just write that on the one envelope, and don’t worry about the cluttered look.
Post # 4
you could also put “we have reserved X number of seats”on the RSVP and on the ones that can bring a guest, write 2.
Post # 5
@SapphireSun: … Thanks…. yah Im thinking I need to buy inner envelopes… I bought my invitations from Papyrus and no one said anything about inner envelopes … You would think the girl selling invitations would have known this to tell me… Im so frustrated….
Post # 6
Okay … I think I found an answer… I may have just freaked out for no reason… lol
On my RSVP Cards… there is
Kindly RSVP by….
() With excitement
where the line by names …. I am supposed to write out MR.____ & Guest…..??? Im so confused ….
Post # 7
Maybe it’s just me, but with things like this I don’t care what “ettiquette” says. I just do them however I want, and my guest will have to deal.
I had this problem with square envelopes too, so I just wrote “bla bla and guest” and “bla bla and family” on the outter envelope. Who cares. It will get tossed anyway. 🙂
Post # 8
We didn’t have an inner envelope because we paid top dollar for our custom invites (soooo worth it!!) so on the outside envelope we addressed them….
Mr. & Mrs. Smith
If they had kids…
Mr. & Mrs Smith
For a plus one….
Mr. Smith & Guest
The RSVP card just said M__________________ and they fill in their name. This will provide you with the guest’s name too. 🙂
Hope this helps you!!!
Post # 9
Totally agree with Bride9911 as that is what we are doing as well. We are also not having inner envelopes and I could care less about what etiquette says I am “supposed” to do! (sorry Mom….!)