(Closed) HELP! Inviting co-workers to the wedding

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How do you think I should send the invitations?

    Send an invitations to the ones that I am close to?

    Send invitation to just my department?

    Send an invitation to everyone?

    Have two invites, one for each branch?

  • Post # 3
    225 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’m confused.  Are you saying they are all definately invited, but you don’t know if they should each get an individual invite?

    Or you’re not sure who to invite?

    Post # 5
    225 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Ok, I understand now.

    Are you inviting your coworkers with kids, spouses, just themselves? I think that would make a difference as to how you invite them.

    Post # 6
    88 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I recently had a coworker who got married, who only invited a few people from our department. I wasn’t invited and wasn’t offended. So for my wedding, if I’m only inviting coworkers who I talk to outside of work. The only thing would be to not talk a lot about who’s invited to your wedding so those who aren’t don’t feel left out.


    Post # 8
    983 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I sorta think that if you’re inviting all of them (and technically, you have to invite spouses and FIs/live-in partners), then you should give them all invitations. Especially because as a PP said, it makes it much clearer exactly who is invited. If you send around an RSVP sheet, you run the risk of people RSVPing their three kids and then having to do the oh-so-fun thing of saying, “Um, sorry but…”

    Keep in mind the formality of your wedding, too. If you are having a ballroom black-tie affair, I think it’s more necessary to do individual invites. If you are having a more informal shindig, it’s less necessary.

    You can, however, at least save on postage and hand out the invitations in person.

    Post # 9
    3605 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    are you inviting them to the ceremony only or the reception as well?


    Post # 11
    1753 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I guess I don’t really get the RSVP sheet thing? Does it get passed around the office??

    Personally I would still do individual invites and I agree I see no problem with handing out those invites. Although for me I still wanted to mail them out. 🙂

    Post # 12
    159 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I know you are saying not all will show up, but still – I would be concerned with 60 ppl just from your job (& guests!). How many ppl r u thinking in total? I work in a school, and am a school counselor who works closely with many of the staff (about 70ppl). Although I like many of my co-workers there is no way I could invite them all. I am actually struggling with that decision rite now. So far I know I will definately invite 3, but our 4 secretaries bought us an engagement gift so has me thinking – but then if i invite them i have to invite my assistant principals etc. ughhhh!!!! Sorry stressing myself on your post!

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