(Closed) Help! : Inviting Friends

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I received an email from a college friend announcing her engagement (this was about a year ago), and at the end of it, she briefly said, “We wanted to share this news with all of you, because we love you all, but it looks like our wedding is going to be on the smaller side, so we are trying to keep it to family and our very closest friends.” She didn’t specify who would be invited, etc (I was, but couldn’t attend), but I felt like it was a good heads up to people. It was just to a group of close friends, like you’re describing, too, so it wasn’t like spam mail.

Post # 4
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I have this issue too and I’m kind of just sucking it up and inviting people in the group of friends that I’m not as close to anymore in the hopes that they won’t come. I’m not thrilled with the situation but it is what it is. I don’t feel like dealing with the drama.

Post # 5
3997 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yeah, we have this issue as well.  And we’ll end up inviting the people that we’re not that close to.  We decided that it’d be better to do that then to have some kind of awkward social situation.  I’m sure most of these people won’t show up and there will be no hard feelings if they don’t, but at least they won’t feel slighted.  We considered the possibility that maybe they would never find out that some where invited but they weren’t- that’s not likely at all though.  Chances are they won’t feel right going anyway in your case as well.  Good luck!

Post # 6
2206 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

This is why I am having a semi-destination wedding: you can invite more people, because a much lower percentage will come.

One of my friends recently got married, and her husband hangs out with my FI’s group of male friends. I got to know her well and was invited, but none of the other SOs of the group were. One guy decided not to go as a result, and two came. Honestly, it hasn’t been a big deal. Just be up front about it, let them know you wish you could invite them, but you just don’t have the space.


Post # 7
4566 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think that as long as your honest and are like “we only had so much room” they’ll deal with it better than if you don’t give any reason at all…

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