(Closed) HELP! Is having the ex’s inlaws in our wedding acceptable?

posted 9 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should his friend be in our wedding? Am I being irrational?
    Yes he should, yes youre irrational : (17 votes)
    81 %
    No he should not, youre right : (2 votes)
    10 %
    Its your choice : (2 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
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    1428 posts
    Bumble bee

    If he’s a close friend of your Fiance, which obviously seems he is since he is a potential groomsman, then I wouldn’t mind.

    I am very good friends with a long-ago ex’s brother, he is actually coming to visit us this summer and my guy is fine with that and looking forward to meeting him. We’ve been friends for years and don’t even talk about my ex in conversation as we have so many other things in common. And he will definitely be invited to our wedding.

    Also, one of my best friends (who I am asking to be a BM) is my cousin’s ex-wife (both are now happily married to their perfect partners). I know this will probably annoy my aunt, since she was NEVER nice to my friend when she was with my cousin, but my cousin & his wife know that her & I have always remained close so auntie will have to suck it up.

    I think when you become really good friends with someone, regardless of how you met, if they are that important to you or to your Fiance, then I would want them to share in our wedding celebration.

    Post # 4
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    2022 posts
    Buzzing bee

    This is tough.  Unfortunately, unless your Fiance wanted to invite YOUR ex to be his groomsman, I don’t think you have much say in the matter.  Of course, you could tell your Fiance that it makes you a little bit uncomfortable…but, it may cuase an issue where there is not really one.  Does your Fiance know that his relationship with this guy upsets you?  Would you object to him being at your wedding, period…or is it just that he is a groomsman?

    Post # 5
    Member
    7053 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I wouldn’t worry about it because the ex is not invited.

    He happens to be married to her sister.  I seriously doubt she’d show up..but in case just cover that base right now making sure she has no inclination of just "showing up".

    Wish you the best!

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