HELP- Is he cheating on me? What's going on?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 181
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2452 posts
Buzzing bee

RIGHT NOW- stay in the moment. No ruminating on your mutual past, no conjecturing a future, JUST THIS MOMENT. 

The worst period in my life was immediately before I met Darling Husband. Treat yourself as well as you can. Concentrate on your profession. 

You WILL get through this.

Post # 182
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582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2020 - Clarksville, VA

 

dalia88 :  Even if he called you and said he didn’t cheat, the trust is lost. You’re doing the right thing. I’m sure it doesn’t feel like it right now, but you’ll look back on this moment someday and be so happy you walked away.

Post # 183
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117 posts
Blushing bee

Bee forget about this guy. I read your other thread and you were already wondering about this pattern on his behavior therefore that’s the reason why you were snooping around on his account.    My take on this is that he has been doing this since forever. i think he’s been having that other girl all along in that other city. Hugs bee good luck. 

Post # 184
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943 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. It sounds like breaking up with him is for the best, as he’s displayed a pattern of this type of behavior in the past. 

Post # 185
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965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Tizer Gardens/Carroll College

dalia88 :  Nothing worse than an idiot who can’t even pick up the phone to start a conversation. A text is wholly disrespectful in this situation on a whole other level

Post # 187
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492 posts
Helper bee

dalia88 :  aw I know this must be really difficult for you but he’s showing his true colors. He knows he did something wrong, he probably wasn’t so surprised you left because if he has he would’ve contacted you 

Post # 188
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365 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

He probably sees all of your stuff still there and knows that you’ll have to come back at some point!

stay strong and try and get your things when you know he’s away! He’ll get the fright of his life when he sees you’ve been back and took EVERYTHING! 

Post # 189
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1090 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

dalia88 :  Do you have any friends that could go to the apartment and collect your things? That way you won’t have to go back.

Post # 190
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Honey bee

Don’t think him not contacting you means you meant nothing to him. Right now he’s a puppy with his tail between his legs. He knows he’s a coward and he did something awful…nobody likes to admit that or face the person they royally hurt. I promise you the fact that you left shows how strong you are and how unwilling you are to take his crap. Wish I still lived in NY, I’d come get a drink with you!

Post # 191
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Buzzing bee

dalia88 :  By his actions, I think you got your answer. I think by leaving you gave him an easy out and thats why he isnt reaching out to you. This is for the best. Time to move on.

Post # 192
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

It sounds like he wanted out and was too chickenshit to be up front with you and say “This isn’t working, I don’t want to do this anymore.”

It’s good you left. I hope you packed up your belongings and got them out of there. 

Good luck.

Post # 193
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

If your stuff is still there then logic dictates you will come back. I’m not surprised he didn’t reach out, honestly. He’ll wait for you to come back and when you bring it up he’ll say “I thought you wanted some time so I didn’t want to bother you”.

Post # 194
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Blushing bee

dalia88 :  His behavior is really odd. I’m so sorry that you are on the receiving end of it, I would be devastated too.

Is it possible that he has an addiction or something? He just seems to be in a very selfish place right now, or that something has taken a hold of him. 

Post # 195
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Buzzing bee

My dear girl–the guilty often have nothing to say. He is awful. What is he going to say to you? I’m sure relieved you moved out so I can go on with my philandering unfettered? Thanks for making it easy on me, babe?

I doubt he thinks you’ll be gone longer than the weekend. Prove him wrong. Please.

You are destined for greater things.

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