(Closed) Help! Is it too late to ask to have bridesmaids?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
368 posts
Helper bee

I think you have a couple different questions to answer –

Who is coming to France for your wedding? Of those people, who would you consider having in your bridal party? Also, do you want to make the people (like your bf) who cannot come to France still "honorary" Bridesmaid or Best Man or Maid/Matron of Honor so they still feel special? Are you planning to have a 2nd reception or anything back in the US?

Of those BMs you decide (which I think it’s perfectly acceptable to not have ANY on a Destination Wedding), do you want them to have matching dresses? How much do you want them to be apart of the planning/wedding?

My friend had a destination wedding in the Caribbean, and they had such a small amount of guests (I think between 20-30) that they had no BMs or Groomsmen because that would be nearly half of the guests there. LOL!! Best of luck, I’m sure your wedding is going to be beautiful and special no matter what!! 🙂

Post # 4
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It’s not too late, and since your having a wedding in France, totally understandable. That being said, if you do decide to ask them to stand up with you perhaps you don’t ask they have matching dresses maybe get something from J.Crew or Ann Taylor (or each find a dress in a certain color). You are cutting it close for traditional bridesmaids dress orders which may need to be tailored.

I may have read this wrong but are you saying you don’t want your sister in the wedding because she might not organize a bach party for you? Um, that would really upset me if I were your sister… the point of a Maid/Matron of Honor or Bridesmaid or Best Man is not to organize parties for you but to witness your wedding day. She’s family, I’d be offended if one of my sisters didnt ask me to stand by them because of my organizational skills.

I don’t think its too late but you may want to reevaluate your expectations given that they only have 4 months (actually only 3 since its already June) to prepare andthe fact they are traveling to another country for your wedding.

Post # 6
2640 posts
Sugar bee

I think you need to decide how badly you want BMs. You are getting married in France.  That’s a pretty big deal to most guests.  Would it help them if you paid for their dresses? Or their flights or hotel or something, to help offset costs?  Also since there would be a lot of money going into making it to your wedding, I really think you should forgo the bachelorette party. 

It sounds like, your sister is going to the wedding.  (And she’s your sister, and you two sound like your close).  I would just ask her to be Maid/Matron of Honor.  What kinds of things are you wanting her to keep under control on your wedding day?  It might be asking too much to ask that she be a DOC or something for the wedding, especially in a foreign country, she’s probably unfamiliar with.

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