(Closed) HELP!!! Is it too late??

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

If you don’t want her a part of it, then don’t keep her.  It will cause stress and drama, not sure if you need that a month out.  As for asking this other person, if she is that close to you, why wasn’t she asked in the first place?  What I am saying is that she might be insulted to be a "B list" bridesmaid, and only a month to go – its really obvious she will be a second choice.  If you are going to get rid of one girl, just leave it as is.  You don’t need to replace her.

Post # 4
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96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

Without knowing the details of the drama, it might be best to just keep things status quo.  A jilted bridesmaid might cause more trouble?

Be sure to include your other friend in bridesmaid festivities.  One of my best friends didn’t make the cut to be a bridesmaid but proved to be invaluable in the days surrounding the wedding.  She came to the bridesmaid luncheon,  went to the spa for manicures with us, and got her hair done with the same stylist.  She ended up doing a bunch of last minute errands for the bridal party.  That’s what friends are for… they rarely require a special dress or a title to feel included.

Post # 5
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378 posts
Helper bee

Two of my good friends are not officially in the wedding party because it was just too much for them time- and family-wise, but they’re going to hang out with us girls the day of the wedding and have been great helping me when they can. I agree, just leave it as is and have all of your friends who can make it the day of the wedding be there. And maybe designate them "the keeper" of the drama Bridesmaid or Best Man.

Post # 6
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344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

WeddingBee reader: Sweeney2Be has fired a bridesmaid, you should look up her posts. It’s probably not worth the drama of keeping her, and it’s also not necessary to replace her. But definitely use that other friend, she could be a coordinator and help out in other very valuable ways like MrsPom mentioned. Good luck!

Post # 7
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158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

Before you "fire" a bridesmaid, you have to fully consider the consequences. Realize that this person will most likely not want to continue the friendship at all and may be very angry and say some hurtful things either to your face or behind your back. But if she is causing you so much trouble that you don’t really want to be friends with her anymore either, then you should go ahead and do it. Just be fully prepared for her reaction. 

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