- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and she is an up and coming fashion designer. I’ve been engaged for a year and a half and she’s known she is the Maid/Matron of Honor since then. She doesn’t ask me any questions about the wedding and doesn’t help with anything. I had a bunch of bridesmaids and friends over to help with my DIY invitations and brooch bouquets. My sister didn’t do much and left to go out and party while everybody else was working. One of my friends asked her why she left early and she said “because her wedding is still 7 months away”. Mind you, invitations had to be sent out 5-7 months before the wedding. Anyways, so afterwards she set the date for her fashion show weeks before my wedding. Now she is hinting at using chair covers and other supplies I’ve bought for my wedding. She wants to use them for her show. I specifically bought them because I didn’t want used stuff. [A little background. She is older than me and growing up, i’ve always gotten her hand me downs. I want my wedding day to be different]. I really want to be there for her fashion show but I feel like she is being unfair by making it that summer. Also, she made a face and rolled her eyes when I told her that I wanted my bachelorette party to be a whole weekend instead of just telling people “meet us at this club”. I also wanted to travel to New Orleans because we have lots of friends already travelling for the wedding and I wanted to decrease costs for them. She told me that traveling is too expensive. So what should I do about the bachelorette party. Its a month away from when I wanted it and she hasn’t sent out emails about anything. People need to buy flight tickets early. Also, because she is a fashion designer, I asked her to help me pick out fabric for some projects i’m doing [mind you, she told me that she doesn’t want to design or sow anything for me for the wedding]. We decided on a day to meet and do fabric shopping. I left school ealry [i’m in medical school] and went to the city which is an hour travel for me. I got there and called her and she told me she is sleeping at home. She said she was sorry multiple times and I believe she trully was. She gave me the addresses of the places to go by myself. The whole point of her coming was to help get me discounts because they know her already. I am kind of frustrated because I feel I don’t actually have a Maid/Matron of Honor and I’d like my friends who are SO EAGER to help to play her role instead. All the bridesmaids have ordered there dresses and she hasn’t. What should I do?