(Closed) Help! Is this wedding band trying to screw me over??

posted 7 years ago in Music
Post # 3
1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

They’re charging more than bands with more experience, do you really want them? All of that other stuff aside, that’d be a deal breaker for me.

And them asking for you to pay hotel is REDICULOUS. I’d look for another band.

Post # 4
3374 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Is this usual to pay for a band’s hotel stay?

I mean 2.5 hours isn’t that far. Surely they could drive home after the night is over? I doubt they’ll be drinking or anything.

Post # 5
558 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Speaking as a professional musician, I think their requests are fair and they’re not trying to rip you off.  However, they should be okay with staying in a cheaper motel than your wedding guests.  While they shouldn’t be forced to bunk up like it’s summer camp, you also should not have to give them 5-star accommodations to do their job (think about what you would reasonably want if your employer wanted you to work someplace 2-1/2 hours from home, not finishing until 12 am).

Post # 6
2313 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think you can put them in a cheaper hotel than your guests, because they’re only staying there one night as part of their job. However, I don’t think you should expect them to sleep four to a room. Two people per bed? That’s just awkward and weird for adults. If they need 7 rooms, they need 7 rooms. So, offer to put them up at the cheaper hotel to cut your costs, but please don’t insist they sleep 4 to a room. 

Post # 7
785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I have no advice for you, but I just wanted to pop in here and tell you how confused I was at this post.  For some reason I thought you were talking about a wedding band like a wedding ring.  And I was extremely confused as to why any jeweler would need any of that information or hotel rooms!  Then I realized my mistake.  Haha.

Post # 8
2866 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My husband has a band and they frequently get requests for private parties so the first two questions make sense because if the venue doesn’t have PA (sound system), staging or lighting then they have to bring in their own – which means extra cost. Also dependant on travel and over-night stay they may charge more.

As for the rooms – you can’t really tell them they have to sleep 3-4 to a room or have them stay at another hotel (moving equipment is a major undertaking and they most likely would have to haul it into their hotel and then back to their vehicle and then to your venue). You can however negotiate to put them up at another hotel and let them make the decision if the job is worth it to them. But you should definitely be paying for their hotel as you’re hiring them from out of town for an evening event.

Basically I’d say just hire another band if their requirements are too much/too expensive for you. It’s not like you HAVE to hire them.

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