Help: It's the wrong ring again…

posted 1 month ago in Rings
Post # 2
618 posts
Busy bee

Tell him saw it and let him know it was the wrong cut. Then get your money back and go elsewhere!

Post # 3
1405 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle

How did you find out? Will he be more mad at how you found out or that the ring is wrong again?

You just need to be upfront so it can be returned. Definitely get your money back and start over elsewhere.

Post # 4
4198 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

I think I would let him know that you saw it was the wrong cut… It would probably be easier now than once you have the ring.  That super sucks bee!! What a royal pain!

Post # 5
2093 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

You’ve been so involved throughout the entire ring process, this time shouldn’t be any different. Tell him it’s wrong, make a game plan together on how and when to fix it, and congratulations on your upcoming engagement!

Post # 6
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2020

This might work if you don’t want to tell him that you saw the ring, pull up a picture of it and tell him how much you like the way it looks or talk about wedding planning or just something along those lines. If he looked at the ring when it came in he might realize that something is wrong and send it back again. Also, there’s no reason not to tell him that you saw it since you knew what you were getting to begin with. I agree with pp that he needs to know before the engagement happens. Good luck! 

Post # 8
2655 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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@aliciamac2372:  soooo… how did you “accidentally” see it. Because I’d imagine it be very obvious if you were about to open a ring box. Additionally… you’ve put yourself into a corner with your attempt at smooth undercover work. It will be very hard to be honest now without him rightfully questioning your previous interaction. You should have been honest that you saw it “accidentally”. Tell him it’s not right. Because how long will you wait afterwards? Also you two should be getting a major discount at this point now with all the issues. 

Post # 9
2019 posts
Buzzing bee

What if he doesn’t propose til after the return window?

And let’s be real, you didn’t “accidentally” see it- you snooped lol

Personally I’d return it and go elsewhere. This company sucks

Post # 10
1515 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

If you’re going to be able to be a happily married couple, you need to be able to work out these “setback” as a team, rather than dropping passive aggressive hints or wringing your hands about ruining a farcical surprise.

He’s spending a lot of money on this. He’ll want you to have the right ring

Post # 11
1984 posts
Buzzing bee

Oof, this was cringey to read. I feel for your FH and can understand his frustration. The specs of the ring are very personal and particular to you, and it seems like he agrees to meetthese expectations. However, proposing is quite the task in and of itself. I would tell him that you saw it, and it was wrong, and see if he’d be willing to let you take over to correct the issue. You can focus on getting the ring specs worked out and he can focus on the proposal aspect. I think this would be a great way to play on each of your skills to both get the desired outcome. 

Post # 13
1515 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

I wasn’t calling you passive aggressive. Some of the advice you got from PP calls for passive aggressive behavior.

Flaunting a photo of the correct cut, gushing about how that’s the correct look, and hoping he notices the difference would be passive aggressive.

Just tell him that his email was up, you clicked on the ring video on impulse, and found out it was the wrong cut.

This is not a big deal

Definitely switch sellers if you can

Post # 14
1634 posts
Bumble bee

Just a thought, maybe contact the jewelers yourself, tell them you want to be sure it’s right this time, show them two pics (the right and wrong one) ask them to double check the order.  If it isn’t right, maybe they can be the ones to contact your SO and tell him they goofed.  Insist they be 100% confidential, in that they cannot say you contacted them.  I would also see if you can speak to them on the phone?

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