(Closed) Help. I’ve become irrational/emotional/crazy… plz tell me it’s not just me

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Maybe take a break from the wedding? Devote your free time to work, hobbies, friends, planning a vacation – anything but the wedding. When you do need to plan and make decisions, don’t let yourself go crazy  – see what you can delegate to others, limit the amount of research you do before booking/deciding on something, skip unnecessary details, etc. Also, see if you can figure out whether there are particular triggers that upset you and try to avoid them. Good luck!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Maybe you need a solid week-10 days away from wedding planning completely…like ZERO talk about it with Fiance, family, etc, stop looking at magazines, going on weddingbee.  Maybe that will help….

this should be a really fun and wonderful time in your life, so I would hate for you to look back on it as a stressful one.  Good luck! xoxo

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Oh I’m sure you are so far from that loony tune!! 

This can be a really stressful time, no worries!! The important thing is that you recognized it and didn’t totally go off the deep end 😉

Post # 7
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373 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Valume? 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

Being that stressed out seems like a great excuse to have a “me” day.  I think a mani/pedi, shopping, and Starbuck’s with a good book would make things look a lot better the next day.

Post # 9
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690 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Sleep! I get the same way when I get little sleep. I just get overwrought.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@Adriana.Niva: i like your thinking! haha

i had terrible insomnia during wedding planning a tylenol pm usually helped and do i dare say umm dabbling?

i second taking a break from planning – i had to do this around the 5 month mark, i just got so overwhelmed and when i jumped back into planning i had a clear head and fresh ideas.

 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

A friend of mine got like this before she got married. She’s pretty much back to normal now, but to be honest it put a bit of a strain on the friendship – and I’m not the only one who feels this way. I think the important thing is to work on your relationships with the people you care about – care for them and treat them well!

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

After 8 months of wedding planning, I snapped.  I should probably mention I am a full time (actually, a full time plus) student and working part time.  2 weeks ago I started freaking out.  I started worrying about the to-do list that never seems to get to-done, the money (which never seems to be enough), and mostly I worried:

HOW CAN I MAKE EVERYONE HAPPY AND NOT GO CRAZY?

I started crying (multiple times a day), hyperventilating, not being able to fall asleep, feeling fatigued, over-reacting to everything, and just feeling overwhelmed in general.  My fiancee started worrying I wasn’t happy about getting married, which isn’t the case- I can’t wait to get married and I know I am marrying the right person.  But him worrying made me worry even more.  

The truth- I’m trying to do too much.  I’m not asking anyone for help, which I need to.  I’m worrying too much about making everyone else happy when everyone else doesn’t matter.  It’s our wedding day, not everyone else’s.  

What I’ve done since:  Got it all out, cried my heart out, took a day or two off from seeing my fiancee.  Called my maid of honor (who lives states away), got some advice on how she dealt with her wedding stress.  Talked to my mom, made sure I was doing the right thing (I am) and made a decision to feel whatever I needed to feel and then to let it pass when it was time.  

Thank God it was time last week.  I started feeling better, remembering how freaking lucky I am to be marrying the man of my dreams with the love and support of my family.  I started being more active, eating better, taking my vitamins, and it started to clear itself up.  It’s not perfect, I’m still stressed out, but I feel better.  

Hope my experience can help a little bit- you’re not the only one who feels like this some times!  Best of luck to you.  

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