(Closed) help! (kind of long)

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I was the Maid/Matron of Honor in my bestfriends wedding she had the same situation what she did was have her dad walk her half way down the isle and then from there her stepdad walked her the rest of the way. When it came time for the dance she danced first with her ste dad and then her real dad cut in a finished the dance they seemed to be okay with this as they both had a big part.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

Have you considered walking down alone? That way you wouldn’t offend anyone. 

Have you talked to any of your parents about this?

 

I think this is a sensative situation and you’re right to be careful about it.

 

If you’re dad had been a total deadbeat I would say absolutely have your stepdad walk you down the aisle, but it sounds like your dad has had some sort of active role in your life, and because of that I think he gets to walk you down the aisle. 

 

I think that a good solution may be to have a first dance with your dad and a first dance with your stepdad, or to have one of them cut in in the middle of the song. 

 

Maybe you can honor your stepdad in more subtle ways. Does he have some kind of handkercheif or trinket you can carry with your bouquet? Does he have a “something borrowed” or “something blue” that you can wear? I think honoring your stepdad more subtely will save a lot of hurt feelings and unnecessary drama. 

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I like  @rebecca_wcc: ‘s suggestions Have your Dad walk you down the first half of the aisle ( as he did for te first part of your life) then have your step dad take over.

 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I understand she was the same way her real dad wasnt a total dead beat he just wasnt there much and her step dad was they paid for her whole wedding. He real dad was okay with it she made it work she just talked to them befire hand.

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