Post # 1
I was hoping to get away with not doing favors at all, especially after reading so many posts here and elsewhere saying they are a waste of time and money and no one takes them anyway. However, my family is basically insisting that we at least do something small. So I found a bakery that makes a cute dessert pastry that is a version of one of my favorite childhood snacks, so it’s meaningful to me and references my cultural background. The only downside is that they are perishable, so we’d need someone to drive an hour to pick them up on the day before our wedding (the place doesn’t do delivery), and we’d have to package them all the night before.
The other option is that my good friend (bridesmaid) offered to make us homemade candy. She’s done it before for large groups, including her own wedding, and promises that it would be easy. I’m tempted but just worried that it won’t stand out or be meaningful, and if people don’t know it’s homemade it will seem like we just bought some cheap candy and threw it in a bag.
(My fiance is no help. He wants to do engraved bottle openers but I said no, it has to edible, no one wants engraved things.)
Post # 2
I almost voted for letting your good friend make the candy for your wedding, but then I thought, yes, she offered BUT your original thought was to PURPOSELY not have favors.
Instead of having her go through that and potentially not being recognized enough for it, i’d go for the no favor route….unless of course, the mc or you make an announcement that the candy goodies are homemade none other than (insert good friend/bridesmaid name here).
other wise, why go through all that trouble?
P.S. theres not much value in you saying something will be meaningful if you favored against it in the first place. Just relax and enjoy all the hard work you put into your wedding already 😀
Post # 3
What if you actually did just put cheap candy in a bag? Thus making things easier for everybody.
Really, really, truly, nobody cares about favors. They aren’t memorable. Most people don’t take them. I remember enjoying two from the hundred or so weddings to which I have been–once the brides family (who are from france) had hand produced bottles of cassis, and once the family had honey from their own bees. In both cases most people still did not take the treats.
If you can’t get away with doing none, do the easiest cheapet thing. Your weddig does not have to be unique to be special.
Post # 4
We did salt-water taffy for ours! Honestly, most of it got ate. We were able to order the colors/flavors that matched our wedding colors too, most feedback from guests they said it was cute.
I wouldn’t put the pressure on your bridesmaid nor someone to go that far for dessert pastries. We had a local candy/soda shop that already buys taffy in bulk, so we bought a bulk amount from her and since it stays good we just put the favors together like the week before the wedding and were able to put them on tables when we we decorating our venue.
ETA: Just an idea if you still want to do a favor, the taffy thing is easy. We had it wrapped and had a cute message something along the lines of “it was sweet you could attend today, love XYZ” I knew people threw it away but the general consensus as I said was that everyone loved it and took it home!
Post # 5
If you have to have favors I vote something easier that does not require anyone making or driving or last-minute packaging. Perhaps provided by these insistent family members if it’s so important to them.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
You definitely dont HAVE to have anything. We’re doing a candy bar because Fiance went “OOOH!! CANDY?!?!”when someone asked if we were doing one lol. Otherwise I wouldnt do favors at all. Especially ones where you have to have someone drive a couple hours to pick it up and THEN package them all the night before. There are a lot of things I want to be doing the night before my wedding, packaging favors is not one of them lol. Does your Bridesmaid or Best Man WANT to make the candy for you, or did she offer to get you out of a jam?
Post # 7
Something simple and easy or nothing at all would be my votes.
The reception is the thank you for attending, people don’t need another little something on top of that. A lot of that stuff ends up being tossed or left behind anyway. Spare yourselves the trouble!
Post # 8
We did individual pieces of Godiva in little silver boxes.
They were a huge hit. I never saw that coming. People were diving for the extras.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t waste money on favors. Your family members had their turn at having a wedding and they don’t need to dictate yours.
If you feel you must cave to them, (why?!!!), then I would take your bridesmade up on the offer, put it on its own table, and make a pretty framed sign about the origin. Example:
“Please enjoy this delicious candy, lovingly made by our friend and bridesmaid Jane Doe”
Not the best wording, but you get the idea.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2019 - City, State
I didn’t have favors, and no one noticed!
Post # 11
My first vote is just stick to no favors. People like to eat drink and have a good party. If you have good food good drinks and good music, nobody’s going to even notice.
My second vote is that the person or persons who felt it necessary to voice their opinion on the subject and seem to care that badly about it have volunteered themselves to make this their own problem and do the favors for you. They can put their money where their mouth is and take time out of their own schedule to make it happen or they can quit their bitching.
And if all else fails, then just buy some candy and put it on the tables. The last two weddings I went to didn’t have favors but had Hershey’s Kisses either in a bowl or strewn either in a bowl at each table or strewn all over the table and it went over like gangbusters.
Post # 12
I was just at a wedding on Saturday and they did cake pops. They were in a cute little box with a tag on them that said “Our Love is Poppin'”. They were really good.
Why do you think the homemade candy is going to look like you just threw some in a bag?
Post # 13
If your family is insisting on favors I say have one of them drive the hour and pick up the dessert pastries that are memorable for you and represent your cultural background, and also have them package all of them up or at least help you do it. If they’re not willing to do that then go with your original plan to not do a favor.