- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2016
We are having a very small wedding (less than 30 people), and didn’t think we really needed a professional DJ. Just a couple of wireless lapel mics and a small sound system for our outdoor ceremony, some speakers for the reception music, and someone to monitor things and turn music on and off. My fiance is a tech savvy guy with lots of tech savvy friends. Sooo… I put him in charge of figuring it out. REALLY BAD IDEA! He knows his tech, but he really doesn’t know/care much about fostering desirable aesthetics and ambiance at a wedding.
A few months ago he told me that he has recruited a friend to handle the sound for the ceremony and reception. He told me it was all taken care of. Great! But now we are just over a week out and as we are ironing out final details, here is what I find out:
- His friend’s sound system features two LARGE, obtrusive speakers. Moreover, they aren’t wireless and the cords that connect them to the sound board are very short. Since our ceremony is outdoors, we don’t have many plug-in options. We have to place the sound board close enough to an outlet to be plugged in and the speakers have to be within 4-5 feet of of the sound board. What does this all add up to? The only place we can put him, the sound board, and the speakers during the ceremony is front and center, just behind the altar. Ugly, ugly, ugly. If we put him way off to the side, he can still plug in, but the speakers will be too far from the guests. If we move everything to the back of the aisle, he won’t be close enough to the plug-in.
- His friend is protective of his sound equipment. That is understandable, but… Because he doesn’t want any of his equiplment out of his sight, he is unwilling to set up his second set of speakers in the reception hall before the wedding begins. Instead, he wants to lug everything from the ceremony to the reception hall DURING the cocktail hour. So our guests will get to watch him do that while they eat hors d’oeuvre and sip on wine. I’m afraid it will disrupt the flow and ambience of the reception, particularly since the reception hall is quite small the wedding is very intimate. Our theme is Victorian/garden, so my thought is that any tech should be as unobtrusive as possible.
My fiance doesn’t see a problem with either of these things. I’m mortified. I’m this close to saying we should just axe mics, sound boards, and mackie speakers altogether. We could just have the ceremony without any amplification and hope people hear us (there are only three rows, so they might be able to if its not windy– fingers crossed). And we could just get a laptop and desk speakers for the reception. We would obviously lose a bit of sound quality, but in my mind that might be better than having guests watch him lug equipment around.
I don’t even know if I’m just venting or legitimately asking for advice. I don’t feel like there are too many options at this point. I really, really wish we had invested in a professional DJ. It is obviously too late for that, so what can be done to best salvage the situation? Any suggestions? I feel like I might be overreacting, but the wedding is almost here and I am so stressed with everything that I’m honestly not sure what is reasonable versus verging on bridezilla territory anymore.