(Closed) HELP! Long, but PLEASE read!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
21 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think you should ask her.  It sounds like you have quite the history together, and true friendships are ones that can always pick up where they left off even years later.

I’m having the same feelings toward a friend of mine who I “didn’t” ask, and I have that same guilt feeling in the pit of my stomach because I can see in her eyes that she so badly wants to be a part of it.  Her and I have only been friends a couple of years but she would give me the shirt off her back anytime.  

Also, is she’s a true friend she won’t feel like a “fill-in” at all and will be honored and ecstatic at your asking.  Good luck!


Post # 4
1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think you should ask her as well.

I had a smiliar situation where I asked a bridesmaid to step down and asked another close friend to be a bridesmaid. I’m so glad I made that decision and I made sure to make her included. I also had a chat with her to make sure she didn’t feel as though I asked her to be a bridesmaid to keep the numbers even.

Post # 5
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I think you should tell her!

Just explain to her what you explained to us and I think she will understand. My best friend got married a few months ago, but we hadn’t met when she first got engaged, so I wasn’t in her wedding. She had a bridesmaid she thought was not going to be able to make it and asked if that was the case, if I would want to be in the wedding. (Everything with the original Bridesmaid or Best Man worked out, so I ended up being involved as an usher) I never thought I was replacing, it just happened that we were closer later in her planning.

Post # 7
412 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@AimRy12: Actually, I was added into one of my friend’s parties about 6 months after decisions were made because of a similar situation- we have grown very close and I now consider her a best friends (she is also in my wedding).  I don’t know how she told the other girls, but I thnk you can just explain to them that you guys have grown close and you want the people you care about standing up there with you.  Her other Bridesmaid or Best Man were super welcoming and friendly to me even though I wasn’t there at first.  Good luck!  

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