- 8 years ago
I need help, or to vent, or someone to commiserate with me or all of the above!
My boy is in the army, not full time, he’s currently in reserves. He’s trasfering to the gaurd for Officer Candidate School. He’s qualified for doing the shortened program which is 3 drill weekends then two consecutive months away training.
I never EVER thought I would end up with a military guy (Mom always knew though, damn thoes moms…) I’m not from a military family and I don’t know too much about how it all works for thoes enlisted. I just never wanted to deal with any of it and it was the main reason I was holding back from dating him (the hold out didn’t last long at all 🙂 thank goodness I came to my senses.)
This being said I would never have it any other way. I love him just the way he is and I plan on making the best of whatever comes our way. Including OCS, two months isn’t that long compared to many other military stays and he might be going away for flight school soon after which is a year and a half. I’m not thrilled about the time away for either of these things but it’s hard to be upset when he says, ‘Baby, I’m just trying to do what’s best for us.” Plus, flight school!!! I would move with him in a heart beat. We’ve talked about it, it’s a pcs(i think that’s right?) move. Or I would move on my own accord. I work for the army doing a job that is always in high demand, so relocating is not an issue.
I’ve become more than cool with all of this army stuff. I’m actually kinda excited, I’ve really been hoping for flight school. I’m up for a little adventre in Alabama. And I’m SOOO proud of him, the Army’s helped make him the amazing man his that I’m crazy about.
Here’s the problem: OCS starts in less than two weeks and his paper work still is not done!! That weekend is the ABSOLUTE last weekend for this paperwork to go through and for him to still qualify for OCS. This is no fault of his own, he’s been pushing for this to get through sence Feb!! He’s calling multiple people everyday and everyone’s just dragging their feet. There are people much higher up involved in this than there should be (a corporal, a friend of his fathers, plus the Inspector Generals Office from our work) If this paper work doesn’t go through than he’ll have to wait till next year and he’s said if that happens there’s a good chance he’ll just retire from the Army. He had a bad year before all this in reserves and if he doesn’t do OCS this year then there’s next to no chance of him ever doing flight school (he’s already over the age limit and he’s gotten a waiver for this year)
I’ve stayed positive through the whole thing, in the begining I wasn’t crazy about the army and the idea of him being out of it and being all mine was kinda nice (selfish I know, but I’m still growing up.) Now, I can’t imagine him not being in the army, it’s like I’ve just come to terms with everything great about it and he might be done. He told me today it’s really not looking good for him.
I don’t know what to say to him to make it better, I know there’s nothing I can do to fix it. How do I make him feel better about something this major that’s out of our control? I’m running out of my optimism on this as well…it’s really hard to say now, ‘just give it more time, it will work out.’
On top of this, I’m really bummed. I could cry. It took a lot of people talking to me, convincing me of all the amazing things that come from him being in the army. I just get used to the whole idea, I start looking forward to all the awesome parts and they’re all being taken away? I’ll never get to see him in his dress blues? The reitrement and benifits? Plus the money from dill weekends AND the extra pay for OCS? These are all kinda selfish, but moneys been tight and I know he was really counting on that. He had to miss drill last month because of this and he’s really stuggling right now. And I’m mostly concerned for him. It’s been the constant in his life for the last 13 years, what will he do with out it?
I’m sorry this is long but any support, advice would be really appreciated. Like I said I’m completely lost with military stuff and don’t know what to think. 🙁