(Closed) HELP! Managing waiting with being a bridesmaid…

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
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257 posts
Helper bee

I know how you feel. I am in a wedding this September and I am super happy for her, but wish I was at least engaged. My SO and I went to a wedding this month and he was making comments how scared he is of standing up there in front of everyone saying personal things and it make me freak out! You will have you day soon and your friend will be happy for you like you were for her. Just think girls in your wedding party will be going through the same thing.

Post # 18
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17 posts
Newbee

i have been with my bf for 6 years, living together for 3. i am in a wedding for a couple that was dating 6 mos when they got engaged. it makes me so depressed.

 

what am i doing wrong that my bf wont propose?! i feel like some kind of a doormat. a bunch of the bf’s friends got married last year, and i was like okay, well ill be able to go to these peoples weddings with an ering at least. false. ill be able to go to mr. and mrs. 6mos wedding with a ring. also probably false.

 

my waiting attitude is really bad today because i have pms, and i am having drinks tonite with another friend who got engaged recently, but i seriously feel like im about to cry!!!

Post # 19
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Newbee

I completely understand how you feel. Boyfriend and I had been together for 2 years when my best friend got engaged about 3 weeks ago. She made me her Maid/Matron of Honor and I have been assigned with the task of helping her plan her wedding. Now my birthday was this past Monday and I received a phone call from her to meet her at the courthouse. To my surprise she decided to get married that day (MY BIRTHDAY) and wanted me to be one of her witness. We spent the entire day there. My birthday was hijacked and she never even acknowledged the fact that it was my birthday or even wished me happy birthday…We went out to lunch after and she told me they decided to do a ceremony next year (thankfully not on my birthday). The straw that broke the camels back was at lunch when she says “I’m gonna need your bridal magazines. I know you have them…..so fork them over! Its not like you need them anyway”.Yell  I wanted to slap her! Its like you’re stuck because you want to be a supportive friend and be happy but on the other hand REALLY!!!! Sometimes I don’t know whether to go postal or just cryCry I don’t know what to do?????SORRY I JUST HAD TO VENT…..it was my birthday!

Post # 21
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133 posts
Blushing bee

I understand how you feel. My good friend asked me to be her Maid/Matron of Honor and I cried because I was very happy for her and honored she would even think to ask me, and because I am still waiting on a proposal. 🙁 It sucks, and thank God her wedding isn’t until next year, but our day will come, too. Just enjoy being a bridesmaid and get some good ideas. IMO, there’s nothing wrong with being a little jealous, it’s how you handle it. best of luck to you!

Post # 22
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269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Ooooh my goodness. I deal with the seriously hard because I’m waiting and I happen to be a wedding photographer. So I’m CONSTANTLY working with brides and grooms, planning the schedule for their day, going to their weddings, then pouring over every detail of their day in the post work. My life is other peoples marriages, and I just want my own! It’s the worst! lol.

Post # 23
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1589 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@KoalaWalla:  That sounds like what I would have to do in Hell- really terrible!!  I don’t know how you do it.  I have been the Maid/Matron of Honor for a wedding in April and that was tough enough!! Power to you!!  P.S. I bet you will have AMAZING wedding pictures!! 🙂

Post # 24
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301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Seashells7:  I know what you mean. Recently we had friends get engaged who are the same age – our high school best friends and we actually hooked them up – they’ve only been dating about half as long as we have. Now I am helping her plan her wedding. BUT the way I look at it is – this is PRACTICE – when my wedding comes around I will know exactly what I am doing, and it will be better. And they will be really happy for you when it happens, so you have to swallow your feelings and be so happy for them. Besides doesn’t it make it easier to shut-it-up? You get to talk non-stop wedding chat to your friends and you have an excuse 🙂

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