(Closed) Help me ….

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Tunacupcakes: My suggestion, is to find something proactive.  I’m a Totaly multi-tasker, and it bugged me that I had no control, or any way to contribute to it.  So, I did little fun things such as I bought my favor boxes when they were on sale (little heart shaped containers)  I got my shoes that I fell in love with.  Just the little things you can tuck away, no serious planning, just fun.  That way you haev a tangible, it will happen, just takes time.  Also, step up work out, or pamper yourself a little more than usual.  These things go a long way 🙂

Post # 4
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1192 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Tunacupcakes: I was in the same boat and still am… You need to keep reminding yourself that it wont happen any sooner and it might make him wait a lot longer if you keep bugging him about it. Try and stay busy, set some of your own goals…etc  But always remember that it may push it further away especially if he wants to make it a complete surprise…he doesnt want you brining it up just before he does it, you could ruin it. Just set a timeline in your head, maybe one that you both have agreed on and Keep your mouth shut until then. If it hasnt happened by that time then maybe casually bring it up to him. That is what I am doing and it has worked for me. When it gets really hard come on here and vent to us. Hope this helps.

Post # 5
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3638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Punish yourself every time you bring it up. Maybe 10 push ups? Or you have to eat a vegetable you don’t like, or run around the block. 

If you want to bring it up, just talk about it in your head and imagine what the conversation might be. OR! You could always talk to Cleverbot about it, just for kicks 😛 http://www.cleverbot.com/

Post # 6
Member
3304 posts
Sugar bee

You need to find yourself something to keep you busy- get a hobby, start a class or develop a goal (like saving for your dress). One you get immersed in something else, it will help with the waiting.

Post # 10
Member
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m super busy and have taken on a million little projects but they fade away and I’m stuck with only my fav topic to talk about. Sometimes I can only go min to min, sometimes I can go week to week without it being a big deal. But it does seem to hover just under the surface of everything I do. It’s kind of like a diet. It’s kind of pathetic but when things happen at work or throughout my day I try to remember to talk about those with FH. We have plenty to talk about, don’t get me wrong, but I drift back to wedding talk easily so if I have a few topics in my pocket I can lean on those instead.

Post # 11
Member
1850 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

It’s totally tucked in a little spot in my brain that won’t turn off. I would be online and the only thing I wanted to look at was wedding stuff (hellllooooo Wedding Bee!;)). This was my biggest problem…so I started to think of other things I could look up. Food was the biggest one for me. I started looking up new recipes, places to eat in my area, writing grocery lists. Totally random, but for those few hours where I focused on food, I was able to hear the little engagement clock a little less. It sounds like your keeping busy which is one of the best things to do. Maybe finding something else to literally obsess about for a little while (and research and do) will give you a slight break. Is there anything you’ve always wanted to do but just haven’t? Learning an instrument or a new language?

Post # 12
Member
3638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@Tunacupcakes: Haha, it can be obnoxious sometimes. 

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