- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
I honestly need some help bees! I had an argument with my parents tonight because of the ceremony situation. I clearly remember telling them that Fiance pastor would be the one to marry us civil (now I doubt it will be civil because we want to include lazo and arras-we are hispanic-& Fiance might want some readings) well my parents came out saying that I said I wasnt having a ceremony because a priest wasnt marrying me, my WHOLE family is Catholic and my parents wanted me to get married through the Catholic church but I disagreed on that. Now, Fiance church is Christian, Baptist I believe, and I dont honestly know how they handle ceremonies but if you know please tell me. Well I asked my mom that how did she expect me to do civil if she wanted us to do lazo and arras and get a blessing, that then it would turn into us getting a blessing by his church, which I am completely fine with, and thats when my dad started saying no so I told him that I wasnt asking him, that I was telling him what was going to be done and that if he didt want to go I would drag him there (I honestly cant imagine him not being there) and well they tried ignoring me so I slammed the door and of course cried.
Fiance told me that he doesnt care if we get married at the courthouse, that he just wants to marry me, but I dont want that, and I know his family will get mad at that because they have already told his pastor to marry us. Either way one family will be mad. So help me decide bees, what do I do?! I know its up to Fiance & I, but would you get married at the courhouse, or have Pastor marry you even if it wasnt going to be just a civil ceremony?
*We picked his Pastor because we wanted someone we knew, although I dont go to his church, I know his Pastor a little. Should we just got with a JOP instead?