(Closed) Help me calm down and learn to wait! Also, can I plan in 7 monts?!?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hang on, so you won’t start planning till you have the ring, which you won’t have for another 5 months, even though you have set a date for a years time?

Crazy! Start planning/saving now!!! If he has to save for that long just for the ring, you guys are going to have to start saving a LOT longer than 7 months to afford a wedding. They’re expensive things, especially formal ones for 150 people!

Start saving and planning NOW, definitely. Most married couples I know spent a year planning their weddings. It can be a very expensive and stressful time so go slowly over the year, don’t try and rush it together in 7 months.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We got enaged in December and are having an August wedding (8 months). It is very possible to plan a wedding in 7 months and to not be stressed about it. The only thing I think you may want to check into is a venue, since you know you only want to get married in March it might be worth it to check the place you want to be married (if you know where) to be sure it is available.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

We set the date in OCtober and got married last month.  As long as you have a clear idea in your head of what you want but a level of flexibility , don’t aim for wedding “high season” there is no reason you can organise it all in 7 months.  There’s no harm in having a look now though…. 😉

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Imean:  

Ohhh, you lucky thing! You have your wedding paid for. That’s a little different then.

But it never hurts to just start looking around for ideas. And as a PP said, venues can book out over a year in advance.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You can get engaged without a ring, ya know. The only 2 people who can say if you’re engaged is you and your SO, a ring is nothing more than the value you put onto it. In most cultures, you only get a ring for hte wedding, the engagement happens whenever he asks and you say yes. Sorry but in my mind, if you were my friend in real life, I would call you engaged already, you’re planning a wedding, to me that already means engaged, the ring is just a hunk of metal and carbon. 

That said, I’m planning a wedding in 8 months, from afar and with 1 free weekend a month. Makes things kind of interesting, but it’s possible. We’re getting married back in our home city, which is about 1 hour with no traffic, but usually hte trip ends up taking 2 hours each way no matter what time you leave or which way you go, and my job is such that I work crazy hours and have only 1 free weekend each month, the other weekends I’m working either Saturday or Sunday from 7am-9pm. So yea, not easy, but if you’re relaxed and not super picky about what you want, it’s very doable. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

On the planning in 7 months thing, yes you can do it. We were originally planning on a fall 2013 wedding and just about a month ago now all of our plans turned upside down and we decided to move it up to 9/2012. As long as you are focused and get the big stuff out of the way first you’ll be fine. I was done within about a month with all the booking/deposits/etc. Now it’s just the details! 🙂 

I agree with PP’s though where you CAN start planning now (if you’re both definitely on the same page about this). 

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Hey (potential) date twin!

Definitely don’t book anything until you have a ring on your finger.  Heaven forbid something happens, you don’t want to be out all those deposits!  As someone who is planning on your exact date, I can tell you that most vendors probably haven’t booked much, if anything, in 2013 at this point.  (A lot book only a year out, so you’re safe so far!).  I live in the DC area where vendors book up quick, and I haven’t had any problems getting any of the vendors I wanted (and they all have this surprised “Wait, you’re already planning?!” attitude when I tell them the date).

I think you absolutely could plan in 7 months.  Keep a running list of venues you’d like to check out, photographers you’d want to work with, etc, and when you get the ring, you can begin the process of contacting all of them. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I am also waiting, so I don’t have any advice about planning the wedding or what can be done between now and your engagement to make planning a wedding in seven months any easier — BUT you can certainly stay busy to take your mind off of the wait! Pinterest has so many crafts and fun ideas! Why not practice some of those DIY skills you will need to make some things for your wedding? Make some wreaths or learn to sew, or redecorate your living room with some simple DIY projects. Maybe join a gym, and if you already have a gym membership, maybe try out some new classes. I started taking trapeze classes at a local place just for the fun of it! Read books, hang out with your friends, go on adventures! Before you know it, you will be engaged. 🙂

Post # 13
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Newbee

I think you can plan on very short notice as long as you are open to different things!  It all sounds exciting and good luck!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

why not get engaged without a ring for now? maybe get a litttle ‘stand-in’ or something until you get the real thing. then you could start planning now…

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Imean:  We’re booked for March 16, 2013, so we’ve started some planning already.  We have the venue and photographer set and are almost ready to sign a catering contract. It’s coming together slowly but surely!

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