Post # 1
Our last few RSVPs have been coming in this week, and we’ve had a few last minute unexpected no’s on fiance’s side. These have been some of FI’s friends and family friends, and he is really sad that these people aren’t going to make it to our wedding. As a back story, FI’s family is kind of messed up, so some of these family friends played pretty key parts in his life — almost helping to raise him in some cases while his parents were off dealing with their own issues.
I told FI that our wedding is almost a destination wedding (it’s a 5-hour drive for most attendees), so we couldn’t expect everyone to make it. But he’s still really sad and hurt that some important people in his life won’t be able to be there.
Please help me cheer him up! I hate seeing him so down 🙁
Post # 3
What does your fiancé like? Does he like any special food or alcohol? If so, maybe have a glass of his favorite drink, or a special food treat waiting for him when he gets home?
Do the people who played a key part in his life but can’t make it all live near each other? Could you guys maybe plan do a mini-moon to visit them after the wedding? I am not sure if they are in CA or Maine (and if in Maine) how long you will be in Maine after the wedding – but could you maybe try to do a dinner or brunch with them after the wedding?
Post # 4
maybe contact them and have them write something special you could read like a toast at the reception. And maybe have the best man or someone read the toast/ letter. Then he will have their words with him and he will know they are there in spirit. you could even do it as a surprise.
Post # 5
When my FI was feeling down a few months ago I wrote him a letter with the top 50 things I loved about him. I left it on his computer to read when he woke up, but he was sick so he didn’t get it until I had gotten home. He hugged me tightly and started crying…I had NEVER seen that man cry before like that (tear up sure). It was really touching and the next day he was back to normal.
I think he just needed reassurance he was my man and he is my hero. 🙂
Post # 6
Awww… what great ideas!
@serasvictoria — that’s so cute that he cried!
@gabrielle — We’re going out to dinner with a couple of FI’s friends tonight who are visiting from Boston, so I’m hoping that will cheer him up. Unfortunately, the friends who can’t make it to the wedding mostly live in Boston, and we’re only passing through very briefly on our way to/from the wedding in Maine. Honestly, FI has drifted a bit from some of his family friends over the years, since he hasn’t lived in the town where he grew up for quite some time now. He still considers some of these people to be like family though, so I understand why it’s so hard on him.