(Closed) Help me choose an engagement ring.

posted 6 years ago in Rings
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  • Post # 46
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    Honey Beekeeper

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    Taiki:  Platinum is a classic, durable choice and by no means a new trend. My mother and grandmother have platinum settings.  

    Post # 47
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

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    waynesworth:  Give her what she fell in love with! Since she will not see 2 rings side by side ( larger and smaller) she will never know the difference. Some girls have a dream ring and even a dream brand. Maybe it will make her fel very special to be able to tell her friends it’s a ‘tiffany’.

    If you know what she fell in love with, why not give it her because what actually matters is that you NOTICED AND REMEMBERED what she likes!

     

    (PS you say she does not know alot abut diamonds, so good for you. I actually did not want a solitaire ring cos its too blingy for my personality – I went for a cluster ring in shape of a flower – very much more ME and I would really not care too much for extra size, so maybe she is more into the brand and setting than the size anyway)

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    Post # 48
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    Busy bee

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    waynesworth: Obviously you care enough to want to get her something beautiful and forever…you rock (pun intended). That said, remember, Tiffany’s (or any other jewelry store for that matter) doesn’t create the diamond in a secret back room in their store. You can get a same quality diamond from numerous places for perhaps a better price. Just food for thought. 

    And as generous as you seem to be, I am betting your fiance is just a sweet and will be happy no matter where you purchase her ring. You can always splurge on a very nice wedding gift (earrings/bracelet) with the extra money you save if you went somewhere other than Tiffany’s. 

    (disclaimer: not dissing Tiffany’s…just offering an opinion as a budget minded older gal)

    Post # 49
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

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    waynesworth:  My question would be this:

    Is she more of a premium brand name girl or just likes the “look” of premium items/brands?

    Many many many jewelers have Tiffany inspired designs that give the same look. Personally, while Tiffany makes gorgeous erings, I think you pay way more for the name and that was NEVER something I cared to pay for (or my Fiance to pay for).

    Think about how she buys her clothes/shoes/purses. Is it all expensive brand name from department/luxury stores or is she just as likely to have a designer-looking purse or pair of shoes without paying the premium for it?

    Just my two cents.

    Post # 51
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    Bumble bee

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    waynesworth:  you mentioned earlire having not seen diamonds with more sparkle etc. That’s not because it’s Tiffany, it’s the quality of the diamond and as you have already learnt from your own research, you can get the same for much less.  It’s amazing what perfect positioning of the lights within the glass can do also 😉

    Each to their own, and if you are happy to spend the extra 3k for Tiffany knowing that you can get the exact same for the 3k less, go for it! She’ll love the ring, but remember if you get the exact same ring, she won’t know the difference if it werent for the box. I honestly think that if you keep the ring she fell in love with at Tiffany in mind, and get the same style, she will appreciate it just as much, as you took note of what she loved and made sure she got exactly that… That in itself shows the effort you went into it. Doesn’t have to be in the little teal box.

    Good luck with your decision 🙂

    Post # 52
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

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    waynesworth: here’s the thing, the ring will be special because YOU picked it out for her. If it’s from Tiffany, you’re paying for the brand and the promise of a quality product. That is pretty darn great. 

    If you go with a reputable vendor like Whiteflash + Vatche and put effort into getting a great deal for equal quality, you’re putting in a lot of the leg work that Tiffany does for you and you know you’re getting quality. That is pretty darn great too. 

    If she’s a sale girl and will love the ring no matter what, she’s pretty special and the ring you choose for her will be special. 

    I posited your dilemma to my Fiance and he said to go with the best value while maintaining high quality and take your savings to give her a great engagement experience. Take her somewhere romantic to pop the question. He also said that an extra 3k could be used to cover any surprise wedding expenses that pop up and minimize wedding-related stress. 

    Just some food for thought.

    Post # 53
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    Blushing bee

     

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    waynesworth:  I think you should go with the Tiffany. If she had such a reaction to a Tiffany ring, why not give her what she loves.

    Ultimately, you have to decide what she appreciates and what she values. For example, some people like to go looking around in Bloomingdales, to later try and shop for something similar at macys that is “just as good”. Other people go into Bloomingdales, to buy from bloomingdales. It’s all just a matter of preference. Her engagement ring may be the one thing that she wants you to go all out on. And you’re 100% right about the brand recognition aspect. Sometimes it is nice to show off a little

    Post # 54
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion

    So usually I would advocate for non-name brand diamonds in order to get a larger stone of the same quality (My stone is from James Allen and I love it), but in this particular case, I am going to advocate for Tiffany. it sounds like your future bride is smitten with Tiffany and will appreciate your thoughtfulness in getting her exactly what she fell in love with (I have a very specific Tacori setting, and nothing else would have been the same, so I get). 

    Post # 55
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    Blushing bee

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    waynesworth: Ok, so I think you should definitely take into consideration the fact that she loves Tiffany rings! But if you are just looking for a bargain, I 100% recommend Costco (I know I know.) Hear me out. My Fiance was horrified at the idea of getting a ring from the same place we buy our groceries, but I was like, whatever, Costco has amazing deals. I got a 3 stone ring for less than $3k and it was appraised at $6k. Costco says its rings are at least I color and VS2, but my ring ended up being F color, VS1, AND .05 carats bigger than it was supposed to be. (I ended up getting my ring reset because my Fiance is picky about design, but even so it was STILL cheaper to buy the diamonds from Costco.) 

     

    Costco sells two kinds of rings: one of a kind solitaires, and rings they have an actual stock of. The ring with more stock is always listed as VS2 and I color, but again, I have never heard of a Costco diamond being that quality. It’s always higher. For $5k you get .9 carats (and to be honest probably higher). http://www.costco.com/.90-ct-Round-Brilliant-Cut-VS2-Clarity%2c-I-Color-Platinum-Diamond-Solitaire-Ring.product.100081341.html or $7k for a full carat http://www.costco.com/1.00-ct-Round-Brilliant-VS2-Clarity%2c-I-Color-Diamond-Platinum-Solitaire-Ring.product.100075094.html

     

    Their current stock of one of a kind rings online doesn’t include your price range, but your local Costco will carry a variety of solitaires in different prices and cuts. Their return policy is amazing, so if she ends up preferring a Tiffany ring (or the solitaire doesn’t match your standards of quality after you take it to a jeweler’s), you can always return it. 

     

    Seriously though, check out reviews of their rings. Almost all the reviews will say that their ring were appraised at twice as much as they paid for it. It’s at least worth a look.

     

    Regardless, congratulations! So excited for you and your girl is very lucky! 

     

    ETA: oh yeah and Costco diamonds are conflict free. 

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    Post # 56
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    Newbee

    So what’s the verdict??  Have you decided?!  You could also probably come down in colour a little to increase carat size…especially if choosing a round brilliant.  My 1.25 carat oval is a G and looks like Ice. (Ovals and other fancy shapes are notorious for showing hints of colour and none to be seen with a G.)  Also don’t just look at “Carat weight”. Look at diamond dimmension.  I looked at a 1.51 and 1.25 and there was only 0.5mm difference in length but BIG difference in price. (Mine is Blue Nile)

    Post # 58
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2019

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    waynesworth:  Another vote for T&Co, but even with my own biases aside (cuz I looooove my Tiffany setting 😉 I think in your particular case it is THE RING she fell in love with! I know you can get a replica made with bigger stone for the same budget, but just because something LOOKS similar doesn’t mean it’s the same thing! Even if no one asks her where the ring is from, SHE will know it’s not from Tiffany. And isn’t her thought the only one that matters here? Also because you’re trying to catch her completely off guard I think it’s super sweet to propose with THE exact ring she fell in love with….so romantic!

    good luck and keep us posted!

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