(Closed) Help me choose how many bridesmaids and who to ask

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
1221 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Of course all of this is up to her but here are my thoughts: since she’s having a small wedding a smaller bridal party with just one or two people on each side makes sense to me (if she has a Bridal Party at all).

As far as choosing bridesmaids, I’d pick the closest/most supportive/more reliable people out of the group. So, probably the friend from birth and either another friend or the sister. Will sister be upset if she isn’t chosen? That may factor in as well if the bride cares. 

She could also skip the bridal party all together and incorporate close friends/family into the ceremony in other ways like having them do readings. Totally up to her and the groom.

Post # 3
799 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We had 42 guests and we only had a Maid/Matron of Honor (FSIL) and a Flower Girl. I decided on my Future Sister-In-Law over all my friends because we are “family” and I didn’t have sisters of my own to ask. This also made it easier since I could use the sister excuse and not hurt my friends feelings. I had no regrets in my decision. Darling Husband did not ask anyone to stand up with him. Our Maid/Matron of Honor and FH stood up with us at the front. All of our friends were invited as guests. We did have one mutual friend do a reading. Our wedding was only immediate family and close friends. 

Is the wedding more informal than formal? Ours was extremely formal so we still had a lot of other elements included that a larger would incorporate – just on a smaller scale. 

Post # 7
1150 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Notcool:  I don’t think there are any rules so my advice would be for her to follow her heart! But if she’s interested, these are my thoughts;

With such a small guest list i’d go with one maybe two bridesmaids MAX. (I wouldn’t say none as it’s definitely good to have someone to share it with and to help out!) 

It’s easier (and cheaper!) in so many regards to have a small wedding party and I don’t think anyone would be offended if they weren’t made a bridesmaid, particularly in such a small wedding as they will already feel very honoured to just be there as part of her closest circle of friends/family.

In terms of who to choose, it’s hard to say from reading the descirption, but she should choose someone who she has a very easy friendship with. Someone who will enjoy sharing this with her, who will make her feel special, help her, have fun with her and who she can see being a part of her life for many, many years.

I have four bridesmaids (100 guest wedding) which logistically, is a little trickier however the girls I have chosen (all friends, no relatives, and i’ve known them for between 18 – 4 years) are my dearest friends who are the most loving, caring, selfless people and I am very blessed to have them in my life. They have made me feel so special and they are so excited to share this day with me which is exactly what I wanted. I guess it goes both ways because i’ve been a very laid back bride but it’s made the experience so wonderful.

Tell her not to feel obliged to choose anyone in particular. If someone gets annoyed about not being made a bridesmaid, they’re not a good enough friend to be one anyway.

Most of all, tell her to enjoy it! It’s such a special time 🙂

Post # 8
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m a big believer in “the fewer the better.”  More members of the wedding party means more potential for drama and more expense (bouquets, gifts to the bridal party, etc.).

The topic ‘Help me choose how many bridesmaids and who to ask’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors