(Closed) Help me Choose the Date! Non-weekend wedding!

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Which date would you choose?
    December 20th, it'll probably be fine and it means something to us : (9 votes)
    20 %
    December 30th, it's not going to interfere with any NYE partying : (13 votes)
    28 %
    a Friday or Saturday in November, not worth the headache or the savings : (24 votes)
    52 %
  • Post # 3
    2196 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    I would not attend a wedding on the 20th before christmas. I usually have ran out of money and in a christmas craze by then.

    I think all around November would be better, but 30th if it has to be December.

    Post # 4
    1361 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I personally think having a wedding any time between mid November and mid January is really inconvenient for many people.  If you’re okay with not having a lot of people show, then go for it, but otherwise, it would be better to choose a date that is NOT in the middle of holiday season, regardless of the day of the week.

    Post # 5
    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Out of all three options, I voted for November (though, of course, avoid Thanksgiving weekend). People that I know tend to be VERY busy in December, between holiday shopping, office parties/gatherings, family vacations, and holidays (it seems like almost all faiths have something in December). Travel tends to be quite pricey around the December dates you selected. In December, the first week of the month tends to be quite a bit cheaper and it skyrockets towards the end. I don’t know how the weather is in your area, but consider travel delays because of weather as well. I’m inclined to think that November will have less travel problems than December. Since you don’t want kids at your wedding, it may be tough for guests to find a sitter during December as sitters will be traveling home during school breaks (college-aged sitters) or they will be busy with their own plans.

    Oh, and around our area, December 20 will have horrible traffic being that it is a weekday (commuters) and people are out doing last minute shopping.

    Post # 6
    1715 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I would do a December 30th wedding since a lot of people take the 31st off anyways or only go to work for 4 hours tops they can just plan a weekend of late nights and partying. Dont expect many extravagent gifts or a ton of guests because everyone has a tight budget at that time of year.

    Post # 7
    449 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    i wouldn’t go to a wedding on the 20th or 30th becuase i know so many people will be busy with christmas and NYE stuff. i’d say look for a date earlier in december or later in january.

    Post # 8
    121 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I wouldn’t go with either date, the times around the holidays are just too hectic. If you are set on picking one of those, I’d go with December 30th.

    I think one of the important things we all have to ask ourselves when picking anything related to a wedding, but especially the date, is what is most important for us to feel on that day. Is it most important to feel like we’re surrounded by as many family and friends as possible? Better go with a date that is pretty convenient for most. Is it most important to feel like we had an intimate ceremony that was very personal? Probably okay to go with an unusual mid-week day. Is it really important you feel like you got an awesome deal for your money? That might trump some other things and push you to a non-traditional day.

    Etc etc. You could go on and on. But instead of picking what you want, I’ve read advice to pick what you want to feel, and then base key decisions off of that. Hope that helps!

    Post # 9
    13017 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I definitely would not go to a weddng on December 20.  I’m usually back with my family for the holidays, and I don’t give that up. 

    Being that December 30 is a Sunday and the holiday is a Tuesday, I probably wouldn’t do that either, because it would either force me to take another day off right after the holidays (Monday) or be miserable at work the next day (tired, possibly hungover).

    And November, of course, you have to be careful around Thanksgiving, because people travel a lot then too, and may already have their holiday plans made.  I know personally I have basically every weekend in November and December filled already…

    Post # 10
    250 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I chose November. 

    I would think that even though you could invite more people in December, more people would decline due to the holiday season, so it would be a wash.

    Good luck!

    Post # 11
    7609 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I’d do it December 30th for sure.  Anything pre-Christmas would be a no-go for me!  Even work holiday parties are usually in November.  I find that before Christmas people are the busiest and have the fewest available nights (speaking as a girl with a December birthday).  🙂

    Post # 12
    449 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    i know gifts aren’t important but in december most people’s budgets are washed out from all the holidays parties, gifts, etc plus adding a wedding gift on top.

    Post # 13
    1659 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    November – personally, I get really annoyed with weddings that assume that I can or will take time off work. 

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