Post # 1
I’m currently 14w in and just got the date for my anatomy ultrasound. Yay! It’s in 4 weeks. DH wants to know the gender of the baby, and until we got the appointment I had pretty much resigned myself to this, since it’s his baby too and I want him to feel involved. But honestly, I feel like this is one of the only real surprises left in life, and I don’t want to know. I think it will be more special when we get through labour and find out together whether it’s a boy or a girl.
Anyway, since we got the date for the U/S I’ve started regretting agreeing to find out the sex. I tried telling DH this, but he’s pretty set on finding out. He said they could tell him and not me, but 1) he’s shitty at keeping secrets and 2) I feel like if one partner knows it would take away the magic at the end, since we’re not experiencing the surprise together.
Any team green players go through this? How did you/would you convince DH that it will be better to wait?
Post # 3
Fiance and I are both set on finding out the gender. But I read on another board about a Bee who positioned as that no matter when you find out the sex its going be the same suprise. Getting to finally HOLD your baby after labor is the real gift of the labor pains. I kind of agree with that. I don’t think you’re going to truly be as interested in the sex as just the fact that you’re FINALLY holding that little baby you’ve been carrying for 9 months. I think that’s all that’s truly going to matter!
Sorry I know I’m not helping your argument neccessarily but just a penny for a thought on someone else who was trying to convince DH to go team green! best of luck! :]
Post # 4
Oh, for goodness sake. I thought this meant green as in sustainable lifestyle. I have never heard of team green for babies, lol. I get it now.
Surprisingly, I don’t want to know my baby’s gender either. I am a total type A control freak, but I don’t want to know. This baffles Fiance who does want to know and refuses not to be told. All I need to know is if the baby is healthy/has any birth defects.
I’m interested in how others manage this 🙂
Post # 5
Another bee literally asked this a couple of days ago ahaha! You might find some answers here..
Post # 6
I don’t have any advice for you but I did want to mention that you and your DH are like me and my DH, except reversed. I hate surprises and he considered this to be one of the most worthy suprises on this planet. I told him it’s still a surprise because it’s not like you got to pick it out or find out at conception. LOL
I don’t think you’ll want to hear this, but he conceded and let me win and we found our the gender. Actually, our baby was so cooperative that we didn’t even have to wait until our anatomy scan; we found out at our NT scan at 12 weeks.
Good luck with DH!
Post # 7
Thanks! I don’t know how I missed it. We even have the same title
Post # 8
Honestly you need to talk and come up with one of you giving in. As echoed as a pp said the best surprise is holding that baby.
For us it was me wanting to find out the gender and my DH not wanting to. In the end I won out and we are glad we found out. It made decorating to getting stuff for the nursery so much easier. I found I hated pretty much all gender neuratal stuff