(Closed) Help me convince my fiance to have a honeymoon!

posted 3 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 16
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47187 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

passthepeas :  You’re right. She has shown that she is willing to be flexible.  But, by defintiion , a compromise is something the two of them agree on by both of them shifting their positions.

compromise

an agreement or a settlement of a dispute that is reached by each side making concessions.

I can’t understand how anyone would think that her ignoring his wishes and booking something without his agreement would be a good thing. It would be different, in other circumstances, if they hadn’t discussed it and she booked them a surprise vacation. But they have discussed it and she knows how he feels. The two of them need to keep talking until they can agree on something, and yes, that does mean he needs to give a little too.

How would you feel if you and your partner discussed buying a new vehicle. He wants a new $50,000 truck and your position is that you can’t afford any new vehicle. He goes out and buys a $30,000 car. Would you be happy with the compromise?

Post # 18
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133 posts
Blushing bee

We didn’t go on one, and I regret it.  I hope the two of you are able to come to a compromise!  🙂

Post # 19
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627 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

wedo016 :  All you need to say is this: after months (sometimes years?) of planning… a honeymoon is just you and him …and all the time in the world! 

Post # 20
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366 posts
Helper bee

You deserve a damn honeymoon! If he’s so concerned about money he could always get a job of some kind. Even a part time job…

Post # 21
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671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I don’t understand why you have to spend 3500 to have a romantic honeymoon. Is there a number he’s comfortable spending? Can you do a domestic destination within driving distance? There’s got to be a compromise between mini moon and splurging on a beach honeymoon. Agree with PP that you will want a week or so together on the “just married” high but I’m sure you could have a very romantic honeymoon for 1500. Bed and breakfasts, lakeside cabins, tours in wine country are all romantic and relaxing. 

Post # 23
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1150 posts
Bumble bee

wedo016 :  Congrats!  I’m glad you got the honeymoon you wanted, even if a bit shorter 🙂

Post # 24
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1148 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

You two need to compromise. You can have a great honeymoon for half that amount, he’s right to be cautious with money. Or have a mini moon (have a day trip or vacation nearby) and save for a dream vacation, maybe for your 1 year anniversary 

 

WHOOPS just saw the update. Awesome!

Post # 25
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200 posts
Helper bee

Good luck convincing him! Traveling isn’t a priority for my husband and he didn’t want to spend money on a honeymoon either.  We only went on a mini moon because my parents gave us a little trip (the hotel) as part of our wedding gift. We could have afforded a real honeymoon but after a year and a half, it looks like that is never happening 🙁 Hopefully your fiancé will compromise in some way because not going on a honeymoon still bothers me…at least go on a mini moon.

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