(Closed) Help me decide — mismatched or uniform bridesmaids? pics and poll!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should our bridesmaids wear mismatched or monochrome dresses?
    Mismatched : (58 votes)
    51 %
    Monochrome (If monochrome please pick a color below!) : (23 votes)
    20 %
    Blue : (15 votes)
    13 %
    Neutral : (6 votes)
    5 %
    Pink : (11 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    309 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I think if there’s 3, maybe they should all be in the same color? but regardless I love that dress and if everyone loves the dress maybe just see which color they’d all pick… you have to think about what will pop in pictures! Love your colors!

    Post # 4
    3170 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I love when they are mismatched!

    Post # 5
    6226 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    IF they are the same dress, I would put them all in different colors. Those colors are great together

    Post # 6
    765 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I LOVE the mismatched bridesmaid look, and I thought about it for my wedding, but I changed my mind…here’s why. Look at the web for mismatched bridal party photos (even the one you posted). The brides with mismatched bridal parties just never stand out in photographs as much as the brides with monochromatic bridal parties. There’s just too many colors to draw your eye to (again, in pictures–in person it’s lovely). I know that sounds totally selfish…but wedding photography costs $4,000 where I live. This is the one day I get to spend that much on photographs…I’d like to be the focal point of my own wedding photographs. 

    Of course, I want my ladies to look great too–so we’re going to do mismatched styles in the same color. That way, they can choose the style that looks best on each of them…but they still look uniform because of the color, and I get to stand out.   

    Now, if that’s not a concern for you, go mismatched! 

    Post # 7
    9170 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I love the 3 different colors!

    Post # 8
    379 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I love mismatched! I have 4 BMS and they are all in different colors.

    Post # 9
    35 posts
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I love the mismatched look! If we had a smaller wedding party we would have done it, but it was too confusing to pick colors, so instead we picked one color and are letting them pick their dresses, all different styles. I think those three colors together would look really pretty. Maybe have different ribbons to cover up the white? Like, a blue ribbon on the neutral dress, a nude ribbon on the pink dress, and a pink ribbon on the blue dress. Or, whatever order you chose, but just to tie them together even more?

    Post # 10
    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @CelticBeachBride:  Do you think it’s the same effect if everyone is in different shades of the same color? I personally love the pics where the bmaids are in mismatched, light, pastel neutrals. Gray, blush, nude/taupe . . . love it all! I’m asking all of my girls to wear pale gray, knee length dresses. I never thought it would detract from me, but now I’m wondering . . . 


    Post # 11
    62 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @joyfulgirl9682:  The ribbon in different colors is such a great idea! Too cute!!

    Post # 12
    765 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @VineyardBride105:  Yes, I do. It’s better–especially if the shade differences are subtle…but I still notice it. However, it really only matters if it draws YOUR attention. Look at photos of bridal parties in different shades like you described. Pay attention to the way your eye moves around the photo. What pulls your attention? If you are still able to focus on the bride in the picture, it’s probably fine. 

    For me, my eyes are pulled to the details of the bridesmaids dresses, not the bride. 

    Post # 13
    2598 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @multinational:  I voted mismatched.  I don’t like it when all the BM’s are inidentical dresses.  I think they deserve to have a little individuality, you know?

    For my wedding, I went with the same color but different dresses.  I think going with the same dress in different colors would also be very pretty – particularly the colors you’ve chosen.

    Post # 14
    59 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would say mismatched, and let your paler-skinned bridesmaid be in the blue color, so that she can feel comfortable and confident.  And let the other two decide amongst themselves or you pick for them.

    Or I would said monochromatic with blue, for basically the same reason. 

    My reasoning comes from a story my grandmother told me about when she spent her younger years designing bouquets for weddings.

    She told me this story when I was planning my wedding, FYI.

    She explained to me that she is not particularly biased about colors or dresses or traditions, but she couldn’t help but remember when she was looking at photo’s from a wedding that she did bouquets for and seeing 8 brides maids, all in identical salmon pink dresses, and identical shoes (i think she said nude colored) and feeling SORRY for the one brides maid who stook out like a sore thumb because salmon and nude was not even slightly flattering on her.  All of the other bridesmaids looked amazing, but the one girl was so pale, she looked washed out. 

    That being said, I think it is good to consider the comfortability and confidence of your bridesmaids, so that everyone can have a wonderful time, and look and feel beautiful!


    In addition to this story, my grandmother rememberd being a bridesmaid for her cousins wedding, and because my grandmother was so short and the bride wanted everyone to be the same height for pictures, my grandmother had to wear 6 inch heels, literally.  She did it, and never complained and no one knew how uncomfortable she was, but she did remember exactly how uncomfortable she was and how she thought it wasn’t necessarily fair and how she wished she was more comfortable so that she could have enjoyed the wedding more… etc.

    So… I’m all in favor for making everyone happy, within reason, of course!


    Post # 16
    59 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Glad to hear it! 🙂

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