Post # 1
I dont have a great relationship with my dad and never really had a great one with him. I would rather have my grandpa walk me down the aisle than my dad. my dad will be at the wedding so i feel its going to cause some issues and drama if my grandpa walks me down the aisle with my dad right there. I thought of my mom walking me down the aisle (she raised me, my dad left when i was 18 months and i grew up seeing him twice a month), but then again, that might cause drama if my mom walks me and my dad is right there. so i was thinking i could walk halfway by myself and have FI meet me half way and then we walk together?? my mom doesnt like this idea bc she says “i have people who love me who want to walk with you. you dont have to walk alone”. opinons?? please help. 🙁
Post # 3
If your mom raised you and you two are close, I would have her walk you. If you’re worried that your dad is going to have an issue, you could explain your decision, or tell him to deal with it. Hopefully he is mature enough to accept your decision, and still show up to your big day!
My personal opinion is that it would look odd for you to walk partway by yourself, and then have your FI meet you, but if that’s what you want, go for it!
I did go to a wedding once where the bride had both her bio dad and her step father (she was close to both) walk her down the aisle, so if you’re truly worried about hurting your dad’s feelings or him getting upset, you could have him and your mom escort you.
Post # 4
I’m in your same boat! My parents divorced when I was 13 and my father and I grew apart. Our relationship pretty much exists of birthday and christmas presents through my brother or cards in the mail. My setpfather really has been a father to me, but I feel like if I have him walk me down the aisle, my father’s feelings would get hurt. I also feel like if I have my mom walk me down the aisle, both my dad and step father’s feelings will be hurt. But, I also feel like people will look at me strange if I walk myself down the aisle. I’m glad I have almost a year to decide! 🙁
I voted that you should walk yourself.
Post # 5
@futuremrsbc: Do you think that your dad and mom/grandpa could both walk you down the aisle? It’s something that lots of people do with stepfathers, mothers, grandparents etc and I think it’s a great way to avoid hurt feelings.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
Have your mom walk you. If you’re dad wasn’t a big part of your life he will have to understand your decision, and I’m sure it will mean a lot to your mom to be able to walk you down.
Post # 7
I’m in the same boat. My parents divorced when I was young. Mom married current stepdad when I was 14. For a while, I thought I would ask stepdad to walk me down the aise. My mom and stepdad don’t like my FI, and it upsets me to think they might not attend my wedding. I’ve thought about asking my grandfather, and I’ve even thought about walking by myself. I’m leaning more towards walking by myself. If Mom and stepdad change their thinking about Mr. M, I might ask stepdad to walk me. If not, I’ll most likely go solo.
Post # 8
Maybe you could have your dad walk you in and your mom join in halfway? Or have them both walk you in. My friend had both her mom and dad walk her in and it was very sweet!