Post # 1
Hi Bees! This is my first post here! (Long time lurker though ). I have a bit of a dilemma I hope you can help me with.
We’ve found a venue we LOVE, but the availability next year isn’t great. Ideally we want a saturday wedding late July to mid August. I am training to be a teacher and next year I’ll be on placement, so I’d really prefer if we had our wedding during the school summer holiday as I’m unsure what, if any, time I’ll be able to take off. We’d also prefer a saturday so no guests would have to take the day off work (we’re worried people wouldn’t come because of that). Unfortunately the venue we love only has Saturday 4th July available, which would mean I’d still be on placement as schools in the UK don’t finish until mid July. The other available date they have is Friday 31st July.
If we took Saturday 4th it’s very unlikely I’d be able to take any time off leading up to the wedding, so I’d work on the friday, get married the next day, have sunday free, then go back to work on the monday. So no immediate honeymoon, and could be a bit stressful. But guests wouldn’t have to take the day off work. If we took Friday 31st I’d have the week leading up to the wedding free for organising etc, and we could have a honeymoon directly after. But guests would need to take the day off work.
So lovely bees, if you were me, which day would you pick?<br />Do you think I’d need at least the day before the wedding free to prepare or is that just a nice luxury? My FI would be able to take the day before off, so there would be someone to set up, it just wouldn’t be me. Do you think people would be less inclined to come if the wedding was on a friday and they had to take time off work?
Any advice would be really appreciated!
Post # 2
lossiebee: If I were in your shoes I’d take the first Saturday for the wedding and the week later for the honeymoon – is that possible?
If you have your wedding on a Friday you need to be prepared for guests not being able to come because of work.
If your wedding is on a Saturday evening, you’ll have all day to get ready.
Hope it works out for you!! Happy planning!!
Post # 3
I am also a teacher and I planned our wedding for summer break. It was sooooo helpful to have that time. I also had my wedding on a Friday because we loved our venue but it was all booked for Saturday. I don’t know about your friends and family, but I know that ours didn’t seem to mind taking off that day. It was in the evening, fairly late (6:30) so if someone local did have to work, hopefully they had enough time to get to the venue for the wedding. Our out of town guests were given plenty of notice and I didn’t hear any complaints about flying in on the Thursday night before. If you are going to be a big DIY bride, you will want at least a day before your wedding to make sure everything is done. If you are going to have a wedding planner and LOTS of supportive friends and family, you *maybe* could get away with working the day before your wedding.
Post # 4
lossiebee: I had a Friday night wedding and so did my brother and one of our good friends. We all chose Friday for a different reason than yours, Friday night was $25-$40 cheaper per person which we all know adds up very quickly. We all had evening ceremonies (ranging between 5:30pm – 7:00pm) and cocktail hour/reception lasted from 8pm-1am. All 3 weddings were a hit! Sure we got some declined rsvps but nothing that stood out. People that want to be there to celebrate your special day will make sure they are there regardless of what day it’s on IMO. We had a 5:30pm ceremony at church and was shocked to see soooooo many people. The church was packed out. Leaving a little early from work is no biggy for most (With advanced notice of course).
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
Ultimately your schedule is the biggest factor here, so work around that. If the Saturday isn’t convenient for you then take the Friday. As long as the wedding is in the evening most guests should be able to still attend. Friday night weddings are pretty common in my area along with Sunday weddings to save money. I’m doing something a bit different and having an early afternoon wedding on a Saturday. 35$ a head vs 99$ at night.
Post # 6
If I were you, I would sacrifice the potential for unhappy guests/no-shows for my own happiness/sanity in this case. A teacher friend of mine was married in June under similar circumstances (either a Saturday in June or a Friday or Sunday in the summer), and she said it was an absolute NIGHTMARE for her. She wasn’t mad about pushing the honeymoon off, but it was the end of the school year, so she was only allowed one day off and spent most of the Sunday after her wedding grading fexam prep sheets.
Post # 7
Thanks for all the responses!
Everyone at the venues we’ve looked round keep talking about a 2pm ceremony being the perfect time, and all the weddings I’ve been to have been a full day event, so I hadn’t actually thought about a later time on a friday. But that could definitely work! Most people would probably be able to take a half day or just leave work earlier as most of the guestlist would be about a 1 hour drive from the venue. We’re planning on doing a sit down dinner, so we could potentially move that to be at actual dinner time rather than a late lunch. The friday date would be much better for FI and myself stress and time wise. I do plan on DIYing lots of things, and while FI would be around to set up if we had the wedding on the saturday, I know I’d have better peace of mind if I was around to see it all done myself. So the friday is much better for me personally, but I guess we’re just worried people won’t come if they have to take time off. But if that hasn’t really been the case for many of you that’s reassuring. I should have mentioned before but it would be July 2015, so the guests will certainly have plenty of notice.
Post # 8
lossiebee: we originally were set on a Saturday wedding. Unfortunately, the venue we fell in love with (of course) is pretty pricy. Then on Saturday you add on $5/pp ($5×140 guests = $700) plus the required 2 security guards ($600) plus the required valet (i don’t remember the exact amount…but it was between $900-1200 i think, plus tips) and all of a sudden Friday was looking much better. (the only thing out of the above charges that is required is 1 security guard=$300) I’m only taking 2 days prior to the wedding off, but everyone I talked to that did that said they were pretty stressed and they wished they had taken more time…so I definitely vote for the Friday and less stress for you!
Post # 9
like pp have said, in the end its what works best for you and your fiance.. we would have loved to have a saturday wedding, but we were unable to (due to honeymoon plans, venue availability, price being THOUSANDS cheaper on a non-saturday).. we still had a great time, most of our guests (that we really wanted there) were able to take time off/leave work early.. also, i only had one day to prepare final things since i worked the day prior as well, but we did have a venue coordinator to help!
it might help if you could have the ceremony start late afternoon/evening so that guests have time to leave work and change/head over, if possible… if not, just know that some people may not be able to make it. dont stress over it too much!!
Post # 10
I would do the Friday date later in the evening. The Saturday seems too hectic for your schedule, it’s no fun to work up to your wedding then go back on Monday.
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2014 - Serafino Wines
I would definitely go for the Friday since you’ve said it would be much easier for you and less stressful. You are far enough out that you will be able to give people enough notice. We are having our wedding on a Friday for a number of reasons. We sent out save the dates a few weeks ago so that people would have plenty of time to plan. If some people can’t take a day off work or even half a day then honestly we’re probably not going to miss them that much!
Post # 12
I am actually having a Friday late afternoon/evening (4-11pm) wedding this coming June simply due to the venue we loved being booked solid through most of the summer months on Saturdays (also, I am a doctoral student and will be beginning a year-long internship in August, so wedding planning after then would become very hectic!). We aren’t getting any discount for a Friday wedding, so that wasn’t the issue, but we really wanted our wedding this summer. Many of our friends and family are coming from out of state (in the US), so taking a little extended vacation was nice for them as well. I think if I did not have some time leading up to the wedding to prepare, it might make things really hectic; therefore, I would say to go with the Friday date if that will make your life a bit more manageable. Good luck!
Post # 13
Given your choice, I would go Friday the 31st. You really don’t want to be working the day before the wedding – there are all sorts of things that can only be done the day before, like decorating and last minute transport; not to mention the general excitement / stress.
If Friday the 31st is in school holidays, then a few people (teachers, many parents) will probably be off work anyway. With lots of warning, it shouldn’t be a problem. Sure you will probably get a small number of declines because it’s a Friday, but anyone really close to you will make the effort – that’s my experience of midweek weddings (or weddings which involve travel so guests need to take Friday off anyway). Ask those closest to you to be sure, but I think you’ll find it’s ok.
I also like the idea of a later start – isn’t it light until quite late in summer in the UK?
Post # 14
lossiebee: I would totally do Friday, Friday weddings are becoming super popular now! Yes there is the downside to people having to take a day or half a day off but really, who doesn’t want a good excuse for a bit time off work!? I know quite a few people who have had Friday weddings and it didn’t affect the guest numbers whatsoever, particularly if you have it in the evening!
Post # 15
I vote for friday! And you should get a venue discount for choosing a friday? Did the say anthing about that?